I get sad when my birthday or christmas (which dreadingly is just around the corner) comes up each year. I dont like to celebrate these times. I even planned suicide on my last birthday to have the whole 28-5-87 to 28-05-06. I was deep in depression then and have since got help. But my question is does anyone else get sad when they are suppose to be happy and celebrating? Do you know why?
2006-12-13 16:13:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
For those who think i am having a 'self pity party' who gives you the right to come on here and insult others. It aint my fault I was sexually abused as a child, my father and brother have schizophrenia, my mother is a lesbian, and my sister died when i was young! Thanks for your advice, but was really unneccesary!
2006-12-13 16:23:43 · update #1
Mara, it is very common for people who have depression to feel sad on special occasions. The reasons for this happening are very complicated - I feel it has to do with unmet expectations. Also, there is a component of self esteem in there; in some instances lower feelings of self worth may influence a person's ability to feel they deserve a birthday or christmas present. Lastly, those who have a disease which affects the brain, can feel over-stimulated by all of the events. The brain is responsible for processing sensory input, when there is a lot of activity - especially the holidays are emotional, it can be overwhelming. Learning good coping skills is important. Sometimes I try and take in the holiday occasions with some healthy limits, as in not attending all occasions, or just some for a couple hours. You can give yourself permission to not partake in things if it brings on your symptoms.
2006-12-13 16:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by DanaZ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sometimes I do. I think it might be because I think back to other times, for instance when I was a kid and birthdays just were very special.
Now that I'm older (in my 50s) and my mom's gone, and my elderly father lives on the other side of the US, I get a bit melancholy remembering celebrations in the past.
Don't feel guilty about your thoughts. There's also no reason to consider suicide an answer: believe me, if you ever did go through w/that, you'd leave your family/friends desperately unhappy and always wondering what they might have done to help you!
There is a reason why we are all here and we all have something different and unique to offer. Try to not put pressure on yourself to feel or act a certain way. Also remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary situation.
Take care!
2006-12-14 00:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanks m.c. I'm sure that will help. Sometimes something such as a death of a loved one close to a time such as you've said can make you feel sad at these times. You have to remember that your happiness is what others who care for you wish for the most.Let yourself enjoy life.See what wonders are still in store for you. If you need to con't and /or seek someone to help get you through this.You deserve it!
2006-12-14 00:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by just.stew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip on yourself and your life. I do not get sad when I suppose to be happy, does this even make sense to you. The reason why is that I am not into self pity parties.
2006-12-14 00:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I do, I think 1 day I just realised how crap life really is and birthdays and stuff just hilight the feelings. I have suffered with depression also and I do understand...:)
2006-12-14 13:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋