its too much for me too handle..My best friend is constantly complaining about the pain and suffereing she endures in her relationship...I can't take anymore of it because it hurts me tohear it... So before I shut her out of my life because I don't want to lose myslef over her problems...How can I still be there
2006-12-13 16:09:10 · 3 answers · asked by heart'sbreath 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's sad....The abusive one's get all the girls and us nice guys always finish last...(sigh!!)
Here's some ideas about your question,however...
1) Get some of her other friends together and yall all go over and tell her she needs to get away from this dude! No lady should have to put up with an abusive BF!!
2) Have her call 1-800-394-hope 0r 1-800-new-life There are people at those two numbers she can talk to whenever your not around.....
3) do the above and then listen to her,but don't give any advice or show little emotion...(This might p*** her off) When she asks why you are not helping her,remind that YOU already told her what you think she should do (but say it with kindness..not attitude) and that has not changed. ....and if of course,if she does leave the S. O. B. THEN shower her with all kinds of attention !!!
4) if none of the above works.....you might just have to let her be.....you will know that you did what you could do......(and of course...always keep her in prayer!! )
2006-12-13 16:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to be there for her but YOU didn't sign up for a relationship with this guy, she did! Tell her how this makes you feel, but have a plan for her. Call places that help deal with domestic violence. Hopefully she will want the help and support.
2006-12-14 00:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by jasminalloveru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET HER KNOW HOW YOU REALLY FEEL ABOUT WHAT THIS IS DOING TO YOU, SHE NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS
KIND OF REALTIONSHIP BECAUSE THIS IS NOT GOOD FOR
HER. AND IF LET HER KNOW THAT YOU WILL BE THERE
FOR HER.BUT SHE NEED TO HELP HER SELF BEFORE
YOU OR ANY ONE ELSE CAN DO ANY THING. JUST BE
HONEST WITH. OR TALK TO SOMEONE LIKE HER PARENTS
TO GET SOMEONE ELSE INVOVLED IN THIS BEFORE IT
TOO LATE.
2006-12-14 00:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋