He is always ready to go when I say something about it, but he never brings it up!! We will weeks without unless I say something. When I let it go that long he starts getting grouchy and hard to live with, until I give in and go to him, sometimes just to put him in a better mood. He says he doesn't feel comfortable asking for it. How does he think I feel? Do I stick to my guns and wait him out no matter what, or keep on doing what I'm doing? I feel like if I don't he will go find someone else.
2006-12-13 16:01:17 · 22 answers · asked by Bekka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just hope it don't get to the point like my 22 yr old marriage did. I wanted to feel sexual attractive and wanted him to desire me also. When one makes ALL the moves after awhile a woman starts to feel unattractive and they don't realize there are other men out there that would find us very attractive and not just for the bootie call. So MEN, wake up out there and start making advances toward your wives or they may just leave you for another man in a New York minute and you'll be wandering" What Happened?" DUH. . . . .
2006-12-13 16:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First and for most, you are not feeling anything wrong. He is probably one of those guys who hates to asks because he might feel like you will reject him, (big bummer to men) or he might feel that HE is begging. Guys can be different that way. The big thing is, if he starts to NOT when you say something THEN you'll have a problem. Take it for what it is, and if you want to hold out for a while to get you point drivin home then do so. It is he who is losing out ...RIGHT?
2006-12-14 00:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by gord's360 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might have done something in the past to push him away. First, make yourself more approachable, ooze sex. Now, give him overload, always iniate, every night all the time, wear him out and by the 3rd or 4th night, he'll most likely come around.
Remember, guys have been the chaser for years, so now that you got a taste of what it feels like, once you get it right, don't take it for granted.
2006-12-14 00:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you have is a lack of communication. Don't think of it as giving in, do you love him, you are husband and wife so you are one one mind one thought. Love him marriage is not always 100 percent, some times its 10 -90 or 20 - 80 . on good days its 50-50. But I will bet he is not the only one trying to get there own way. Compermize , make love not war. And remember there is always someone around the cornor that will take care of him if you don't want to honey. 30 years of being married on my side. When it all comes down to it really don't make any difference all ,the petty little things , now dose it.
2006-12-14 00:13:51 · answer #4 · answered by pamcb1 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Go out and buy an extremely sexy outfit(or as sexy as you feel comfortable wearing). Goes without saying...not in front of the kiddies if applicable. Put it on, and walk around in it, don't say anything to him about sex and don't sit down next to him and be totally obvious. Do your own thing. I find vacuuming works very well. MAKE him ask you for it. My husband doesn't like to ask for it either, but when I do this the brain on the lower half takes over very quickly.
2006-12-14 00:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He may have a problem with rejection. Also sometimes men's gestures are too small to really understand what they are saying. For example, he may have patted you on the bottom to him he was asking hey honey how about some nookie. To you it was a simple pat. Also how long have you been going to him? Maybe he feels comfortable with the way things are. If its not broke don't fix it.-This saying is very common with men.
2006-12-14 00:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by Wenz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a married couple, you should be able to discuss this situation possibly after being together. You should be able to ask him what would it take for him to be more open about when he's in need of fulfilling his desires sexually. You want to find out before it occurs to him that outside may be easier than home to take care of his needs totally.
2006-12-14 00:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well , I am sure you already did most of that but just to cover it all
1.clean up and wear a good perfume
2. don't wear nighties that show large parts of your body , just give him a lil nudity ,so he will always be anxious for more
3 . give him these burning sexy looks when you want him
4. touch him down there ,front and back
He will mostly burn out with that and jump to you
any further Qs , don't hesitate to contact for more tips
2006-12-14 00:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.Who 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you could look at this as an adventure, and see if you can casually and seductively, over a period of time, see if you can get him so raging horny, he'll be begging you for it.
One example, at some point, go down there.......and lick the candy. Tell him thanks, just needed to do that, and get on with your day.
If you just want to hear the words, I'm sure you'll get creative with what WILL drive him over the edge.
Own It Girl!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-14 00:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't feel comfortable, why push him. You are strong and can take it going to him. Some men have ego issues. Don't make a big deal over nothing. Be happy and go to him, a man will not turn you down! Enjoy it together!
2006-12-14 00:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by fatsomoe 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋