It's also my birthday this Sat. I really have had a really bad pregnancy. I am now winging myself off of morphine and vicodine. I am really doing good on that part but getting dressed is still a challenge. I still hurt allot if I do to much. My husband is very understanding and thinks I should throw my hair up in a pony tail and ware what I want and just put some makeup on so I will glow. LOL. I just don't want the people to feel like they shouldn't had given me a shower because of me looking like I feel bad. See what I mean what do you think?
2006-12-13 15:34:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am not ashamed as to why my doc has put me on those meds. I have 2 large tumors that are in the womb with the baby. A tumor is setting on my nerve that is connected to my sciatic. (I can now at 31 weeks hardly make it to the bathroom!) My legs ache all the time with a burning, tingling, and sharp pain to my feet.
I said blue sweats because I am having a boy. I can't wait. I am so happy no matter the pain. (And no it's the pain killers that is making me happy!) It's motherhood :)
2006-12-13 15:52:49 · update #1
Oh you poor thing! Morphine when you're prego?? If you really feel that crappy, by all means, sweats it is!! It's wonderful that you can still make it-I'll say a little prayer for you & happy birthday too!!!
2006-12-13 15:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I wish I could give you a hug! I don't think it would be complaining to ask them if maybe they could do it several weeks earlier, explaining that it's not a complaint so much as a concern that the honoree (you) may well be unable to attend your own baby shower and that it means a lot to you that you be able to be there to thank everyone. Maybe you could ask your husband to intervene on your behalf, and have him explain that there is a large possibility of you welcoming your baby early and that you really want to attend what might be the only baby shower you will ever get to have. Really though, if you're uncomfortable making the suggestion, just give yourself some time to get used to the idea. Pamper yourself while you can. When you're sad about it, cry on a good friend's shoulder, or on your husband's shoulder. It upsets me that his family refuses to consider that while Thanksgiving weekend is convenient for THEM, it's a bad idea for YOU and that they're just cutting it too close. It's extremely inconsiderate of them, and I'd be upset too! I don't know that you can just magically stop being sad about this, but I do think it's something you will be able to work through if your hubby's family continues to be the way they're being about this. Just let yourself experience the sadness without letting it rule your life. It might help just to realize that your reaction is normal and that it's okay to feel the way you feel. Your reasons for wanting an earlier baby shower are valid, and it's not "looking the gift horse in the mouth" to make a request.
2016-05-23 23:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by Yolanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your party, wear the sweatpants! Be comfortable. The people that come truley love you and not the clothes that you are in. I know about hard pregnancies. Take care of you and the baby, everything icky now gets erased after your angel is born, stay tough, it's worth it.
God Bless
2006-12-13 15:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by schmitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the mommy to be, wear whatever you like... Nothing wrong with sweatpants... Unless of course the baby shower is in some fancy resturaunt... But I am guessing it's at a friend or family members home. Be comfy... Who's going to care?
2006-12-13 15:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could wear a maternity dress? easy to put on very comfy and roomy but more dressy and it will look like you made more of an effort. even tho i'm sure your family and friends know the problems you are going thru, you'll want the pictures from your shower to be pretty. my mom's favorite outfit from her pregnancy withmy sister was a purple and black mumu looking dress (but it was really pretty) she wore it for years after she had my sister, even when she had lost all of her pregnancy weight. good luck!
2006-12-13 16:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people throwing your shower most likely are doing it because they love you. And they also most likely know about your struggles. You are pregnant, which means you are beautiful no matter what you wear. Go to your shower, wear what you want, and let the ladies in your life celebrate your blessings with you. Congratulations!
2006-12-13 15:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by rickylanphear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hon, do what you want.. the appearance matters on 50%.. the beautiful glow on your face from the excitement of having your child, will make the atmosphere happy!! dont sweat it..really.. just take it easy for the last few months..
Also, taking a walk more often helps make it easier for you at the time of delivery..
2006-12-13 15:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pink would give you a better glow but why are you on presciption drugs being pregnant ?Was pregnancy really that bad?
2006-12-13 15:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is a casual shower I suppose sweats would be ok, however if it is somewhere nice try doing a bit more.
2006-12-13 15:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dress comfy. Your gonna have to sit for a long time and be sociable. So you might as well be comftorable, everyone will understand!
2006-12-13 15:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by veronica z. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋