So i NEVER have lasting luck from meeting them in bars...I want someone that is active and confident and NOT a video game playin, immature boy....where are the good manly men at? if your one of them....where would i meet you?
2006-12-13 15:30:19 · 24 answers · asked by nonyerbusiness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can find us at: sports events, concerts, car shows, the gym, crowded parks ( looking for you), beaches, lakes, some of us at the mall ( again looking for you), Vegas!!!!! (personal favorite sorry), Lowes ( find something you need fixed and head to a hard wear store and look really lost). Good Luck
2006-12-13 15:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best suggestion for you is to use online dating. I am not a bot ad.... the reason I say this is I had the same problem. I got tired of meeting the wrong people.
Since I am online a lot I figured why not try it out. My brother found his wife through yahoo personals and I actually found (well no he found me) through there. I have been dating him for almost 2 years now.
I think the reason I like online personals so much is that IF they are honest (which sometimes is a big if) you can learn so much more about a person and truely try to match yourself up with someone that wants the same things you do. At a bar you get what you see and most of the time the guy you want is not the one you walk towards.
Its not really that expensive and I would say its worth a shot. At least you have better odds at lining people up that really do interest you.
If you would rather stay away from the net.. Coffeehouses, bookstores where you can sit and read and church or organizational functions seemed to me to be more of the men i was looking for.
Good luck..
2006-12-13 23:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone has already written to you about on line dating, and yep, that is where some really great people indeed are.The man I am with now I met on Yahoo Personals, but let me give you some hints, hon. First, if you do not have a killer smile, get one at the best cosmetic dentist in your area. Great teeth radiate health , and healthy is sexy. If you need to drop some weight do it, and get some really great clothes. have some really great photos taken, not glamor shots, but not with sunglasses either.... Yup, the smile will cost you some buckos, but it is an investment. (My killer smile will burn down a room.... no, a stadium!!!!!) If your teeth are already spectacular, lucky you.
Read some of the ads put up by other women, and pattern your own ad after those. If you are a bright, educated lady, for sure eliminate a hs graduate from anyone who would wish to date you. Meet in public places, and tell a friend when you will be home. Chat on the phone a few times before you agree to a date. Keep the conversation light, and if you were once married or in a long relationship that ended badly, don't discuss it for many many months. I met my husband thru personal advertising, before it was ever popular. We had a lovely marriage for the first 13 years or so, and even tho it is over, it was successful --- we were so alike, so caring, traveled, both like children whenever we went to Africa, which was 6 or 7 times, and we figured we'd always be together. When it was over, we parted as friends. My friends encouraged me to try Yahoo, so I did, and I met a few nut cases, just like you will find in church sitting next to you. There were some men I wanted to see again, but never called, and some wanted to see me again, but I wasn't interested. So, don't get discouraged
2006-12-14 00:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sign up for a class at the local community college. Or develop a hobby - for example, dog-training and rescue, immerse yourself in it and put yourself in a situation to meet like-minded people sharing a passion. Stay out of the bars.
You sound athletic. Maybe start running marathons. Or go on those Sierra Club hikes. Take a sky diving class. Put yourself out there. Even if you don't meet someone immediately you will become a happier, more interesting person.
2006-12-14 00:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by peggy j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm married. However, you will find men that you want by doing everyday normal things. When you are not looking for it is when it hits you. My quick story, I had just ended a "casual" physical relationship and had just gotten back from the Dominican Republic for a weekend of debauchery with some friends from work when I met my wife while I was working. She was actually there to talk to her ex boyfriend of several years who she had not seen for a year. From that day on, we spoke every single day until we got married.
When you go to a bar, you already know why you are there, and visa versa. You are already setting yourself up to fail for a good long term relationship. Good luck in finding your man and I hope he is good to you.
2006-12-14 00:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kenneth C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just a quick comment...not everyone who enjoys video games is an immature boy.
I find the best way to meet new people is within your classes at school/college.
If you are not in school, try to find a bookstore, coffee shops, or some other places where books can be found.
I like Merrily's suggestion. If you are looking for the extreme active type, then I would suggest joining a club at a gym or a casual runner/rock climbing/skating/[insert your sport here] type club.
2006-12-13 23:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by [ΦΘΚ] PIяATE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Gracie,
I too feel this way and can't stand nightclubs. The jealousy, the loud music to where we can't converse, etc.
Most of the folks I know who are super cool hang out at bookstores with attached cafes', cafes, coffe shops, libraries, also community events such as super numararies (extra's) in local theatre productions, musical theatre etc.
Religious types are usually involved with their church.
Sports types could be found at local AAA baseball games.
I think its best to find groups related situations ,relative to things you love to do on your own.
Example:
a. If you love the gym, look for someone at the gym that loves it to.
b. if you love opera, then meet people at the opera that loves it to.
c. if you love golf.... etc etc etc.
Meeting people at the grocery store, or "places everybody has to shop stores" can also be catastrophic, as those places don't reveal a "type" of person. everybody from charles manson to jesus christ must get groceries, thus their prescence at such a common place would not reveal anything about what they are "really" about.
Of course, according to Charles Manson, he IS Jesus Christ (LOL:)
These are some ideas, best wishes, ~Marcus:)
http://www.metacafe.com/user/3528291/marcusunlimited/
2006-12-13 23:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Marcus Unlimited 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo! Personals. I ordered up my husband one afternoon when I was tired of the loser i was dating, who thought the only reason to break up was if one of us met someone. So I was just looking for a new guy to "meet." And we met. And the rest is history. And he'll be home in an hour and a half!
2006-12-14 00:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join up with a Singles Group at a Church if your looking for a real Man.
2006-12-13 23:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what it is ,is you are trying to hard to find him. When you stop looking and keep yourself busy they will come around. Men tend to see a womens face written with desperate all over it. It will come around for you, you just have to be patient. There is someone for everyone and who knows you might just be in the produce department and he might be there.
2006-12-14 00:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋