Just curious about different views and circumstances, including your situation today.
2006-12-13 15:23:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I regret it everyday. It was 3 1/2 yrs ago. I was sooo excited to be pregnant again (my son was 4 1/2 then). When my husband found out he was furious. He threw a tantrum like a 3 year old and got really nasty toward me. He started going out every night until 2 -3 in the morning. Finally when he settled down, he told me that the only way to save my marriage and keep my husband was to get rid of the baby. It was the hardest thing I have ever done and pray everyday that my innocent unborn child will forgive me. In the end, I left my husband 2 weeks after the abortion. I couldn't forgive him for the person he had turned me into. A person who was too afraid to stand up for herself and her child. If I had to make the decision again, I can promise you that I would do it differently. Its not that I'm against abortion, I just don't think that my reasoning was worthy of my actions.
2006-12-13 16:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by ricksgrl2005 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had an abortion 6 years ago and i will never forget it. I was 16 and had a lot of pressure from my boyfriend, my parents and his mom to get it done. I wasnt strong enough to listen to my instincs but no matter how much i regret it there is nothing i can do to change it. I had to go through counsling and it took me a long time to come to terms with my choice, Everything happens for a reason. I am now happily engaged and 28 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. I am so thankful because one of my fears was that i would be punished for what i did by not being able to have children and actually i dont think i will stop being scared of this until my baby is healthy and in my arms. I still wonder what would have been or what would have happened but all i have is my future.
2006-12-13 23:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had an abortion when I was 17. Addicted to alcohol, cigarettes, dope. I was living out of home and partying it up. I had been with the guy for a year and it was a total surprise when i found out. I had been on the pill the whole time. I was in two minds about having the abortion. but was concerned for the health of the baby, and the standrd of living I would be able to provide for them. So I went through with it. We caught the bus there and there were protesters picketed out the front of the centre, hurling abuse and images of feotuses that had been aborted. I broke down, and was ready to turn back home. It was the most heartbreaking decision ive ever had to make. But I went through with it. They did an ultrasound during, prep to see the position of my baby, i asked if i could look at the ultrasound. I was given a drug to ripen the cervix and then was called in to be put under anaestetic. I remember waking up, the lady gave my an icypole and i felt like a 10 yr old. We went back home on the bus the same day.
I have mourned the life of my little belly bean ever since. But I still believe it was the best decision I could make at the time. It makes me sick when I think about it. But ive come to accept my decision. And wont deny his life by ignoring the fact it happened.
Now im 23, sober,(24mths now) fit and well living with my fiance of 2 years, raising my 6 month old son. It was a planned pregnancy. My boy is amazing and we will have no problem providing him with any thing he needs in the years to come. My hubby to be is a fantastic, loving and involved father. It was the perfect situation, and everything fell into place!! were to be married this time next year.
Im a stronger wiser person now for the experience.
I think about my belly bean alot, and hope his precious little soul was given to a more deserving couple.
Thank you for letting me share my story.
2006-12-13 23:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by niki 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I was faced with the "choice" when I was 19. In college, future ahead of me, going to a great school. Everyone kept asking me, "what are you going to do?" and assuming that I would choose not to have the baby. My boyfriend wanted me to have an abortion, his mother had 2 and it was a normal thing. But, I don't know how I would be able to look at a baby ever again without remembering. I chose life because it is given by God and a baby is a blessing from Him. He will give you the strength to do what is right and to raise your child. Mine is 15 now. She is a straight A student and rides horses. It wasn't easy, but it was very worth it. Choose life, the life that he gives, it is full of mercy.
2006-12-14 00:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by sandiegiles 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No regrets at this stage, although sometimes I wonder how life would be if things had been different. And I had three, 8yrs, 6yrs and 5yrs ago. No. I'm not stupid, just one of the few women for whom the pill just doesnt work. Now I have an IUD, and am planning to have it removed some time next year so I can have a baby. Now that I'm ready for that. Maybe if I find I cant have children now I will regret those earlier decisions, but my friend also had three abortions and now has two lovely daughters.
2006-12-13 23:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by psa73 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would never have an abortion unless my baby wasnt going to survive or I was in danger.
My sister had an abortion in Febuary and I think she regrets it. When she sees woman with babies, she turns away or says something rude about the mother or the baby. I think that is a big jealousy thing.
I feel sorry for her but I told her not to do it in the first place.
2006-12-13 23:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by Me...Cat Tyson?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did have an abortion. It was in 1996. Yes i did regret it every day. I finally made peace with God and with myself. I hate admitting that I did have one especially since I am so vehemently against it now. I was young and not ready to try and take care of a child. I wouldn't recommend it as a solution to anyone, I know the hurt and pain it can cause. I know how much it can hurt your body and your spirit. I am now the mother of two and expecting my third very soon. I plan to do counseling at our local crisis pregnancy center. I feel like anything at all that I can do makes me feel like maybe there is a purpose for everything. Maybe this terrible thind that I did was not in vain.
2006-12-14 01:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I do. It was about a yr frm now, but I now have a baby on the way. It hurts to abort someone innocent. I was 5 mths pregnant and didn't even know until the aborted me.
2006-12-13 23:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by babiskillz00 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't my abortion, It was hers. as such, it was my Place to support her in whatever decision she made. Later in life she was able to have her children when she could afford them and be a mother to them. After all thees years I still believe it was the best thing for her.
2006-12-13 23:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
very much so and i was 16 and im 21 now. its beeen 5 years and i still have a hole in my heart for it so to speak,,but yes it does put a big impact on you afterwards, and what you realize what you did, but i would never do it again...ever!!
2006-12-13 23:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Victoria 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋