I know I have mentioned the topic of racism before, but this is a question for everyone. I was taught that making stereotypical or racist remarks about any group was never ok. However, my half-sister and brother were not brought up with the same values. At first I did not confront them, when they made comments (about Jew, Hispanics...). But, you could tell that I was uncomfortable about their remarks. However, with my mother's encouragement, I confronted them and their remarks. It does not stop the remarks, but they know that I don't agree with them. I was wondering, what do others do, if they have to deal with this issue.
2006-12-13 15:01:32 · 18 answers · asked by Mia 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
you took a stance and spoke your mind, that is admirable! It takes great courage to confront such ignorance, especially from family members - you did the right thing
2006-12-13 15:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by RZA 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If you let the comment past, it's like you are agreeing with them, giving the person permission to say something else later. I don't stop at racism, I let people know that I am also most definitely, unequivocally offended by homophobic comments too. My hope is that they'll be offended by the fact that they can't say whatever they want to around me and will stay away and this works very well for me. Stop all hate in its tracks, don't let it pass.
2006-12-13 15:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I've grown to understand (especially on YA)is that people suck. For the most part. And believe me your siblings heard you loud and clear, and now there is nothing else left to say. At this point it's not about them it's about you. Most times the loudest statement is silence. Let those folks feel the way they want, just make sure you continue to feel the way you do. And believe me if everyone thought like you this would be a pretty boring place. ......Get it? Peace.
2006-12-13 15:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by louloutee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good going...
as for me, whenevr i come across such a situation, if it's a loved one, i tell them very gently but firmly that no sensible person makes such racist remarks and that tolerance is vital in their outlook because it may sound cliched, but we are all equals. In case of acquaintances, i politley and briefly express my distaste, without trying to sound too reformist(u never know when someone might have had a genuinely bad experience that makes them biased)
2006-12-13 15:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by inaccessible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm fortunate in that most of my friends don't make racist comments, but when someone I know does, I usually ask him/her what he/she meant by that. Then, I go on to explain that the expression that was used is seen as racist or offensive. I've not had anyone be rude about it yet.
2006-12-13 15:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If one ethnic group shouldn't make the food of another ethnic group in restaurants, why should they make the food of another ethnic group in their homes or eat the food of other ethnic groups?
2016-05-23 23:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by Gail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it offends you, speak up and let the people know politely, if they choose to not to try to respect the request, then you have the option of either ignoring it or leaving.. this would be in a personal setting, professional setting is different.
don't try to 'educate' them unless they don't understand how they offended you and were racist.
If you really want to build a fire, come from the holier than thou stance as so many usually would.
2006-12-13 15:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by bilko_ca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am never personally offended by morons but I do make it a practice to humiliate them when they act up . . .
Like I ask if they were dropped on their heads as babies ? or
Were they born retarded or was it an accident later in life ?
But I never waste my time by letting idiots offend me, I mean there are so many ! There would not be time in life for anything else !
2006-12-13 15:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually say something like, That's not very nice, Look at your own family background, and then see how you would feel, if someone put you or your family down. Just because someone is not the same as you, doesn't mean you have the right to attack them.
2006-12-13 15:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by lennie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its perfectly okay to stand up for yourself! I would tell them that it makes me uncomfortable and maybe bring up how they would feel if someone made an offending comment about something they can't help. You were born like that and you should be proud of who you are and where you come from.
2006-12-13 15:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by savana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋