I dont really talk much in my classes(highschool), ive been really focused this year on my work, probably cause i dont have any good friends in my classes, but sometimes i talk to people around me. well everyday someone always has to ask or comment on me being quiet, is it really a bad thing to be quiet? or do they just want attention or something?
2006-12-13 15:01:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
im not very shy. i can talk when i want to. i have lots of friends outside of classes and school. i just choose not to talk during class. i guess this year these people in my classes arent people id be friends with.
2006-12-13 15:39:19 · update #1
I totally know what you are saying! Lots of people say that I am quiet. I didn't think I was that quiet, I just spoke when I had something to good to say... I didn't just blab about everything. At first I was really conscience about always being so quiet and so I tried really hard to talk more, but it never really worked out. Now I am just happy being my quiet self. You'd be surprised at how much people like you for being so quiet. They usually think that you are oe of the nice/smart ones (which is really good). Hey, you don't want people to know too much about you. Just be your self and as long as you are yourself, you'll be happy.
2006-12-13 15:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by make love not war 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just wondering why you dotn talk much, i guess they feel that you are shy and they know it but they just cant understand how someone could be so shy. I guess because they talk alot. Dont worry about it just try talking to them and you will be talking alot more since you have friends in there with you. You are not the only girl that is shy and doesnt tlak much in class, usually when a girl doesnt have friends in class they normally dont know what to talk about to anyone they dont know unless they just love to talk. So just try and make friend sin class and you will be talking more.
2006-12-13 23:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the same reason people will try to shove a drink in your hands at a party, they want you to be just like them so they don't feel insecure. So they notice you don't talk as much, or are taking your class seriously, and they want to drag you down to their level by trying to bother you and engage you in pointless banter.
For me it was always the teachers who had something to say about me being quiet and would pick on me and pick me to talk in class just to embarrass me. You'd think teachers would be above that, but no. I was "the quietest kid I've ever met." How does that help me? As long as I get A's on the tests and homework, just leave me alone.
I always took school more seriously than everyone else and had no interest in recess or friends outside of the classroom, and I wasted a lot of time doing busy work instead of pursuing my own goals, because I thought that's what you were supposed to do. And put up with a lot of people's crap because I didn't want to get in trouble by standing up for myself, which is how my parents raised me.
In college it just got worse as being interactive had more to do with my grades than book learning, and I was soon a drop out. I still sit and read and think a lot more than most people, but my job is mostly manual labor as I can't deal with people, work with a team, or carry on much of a conversation. So my advice is to try harder to talk to people, because communication is more important in this world than knowledge or innovation, sad as it may be.
2006-12-13 23:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, i think they want you're attention or it could be that you're getting a lil bit too exclusive to yourself.
It's okay to be quiet but you should make a little talking that's all like share and express your opinions and by putting on some humor or you know, join the everybody's laughter.....that way you may not be as quiet as they seem you are.
2006-12-13 23:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by archangel_renz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because extroverts think the world revolves around them. if you're not paying them any attention, they think something's gone horribly wrong.
in any case i think it's a good sign that they are commenting on you. if you were to break out of your shell some more, i think you mind find more friends than you would expect.
whatever happens, remember that it's not a bad thing to be quiet. the world needs less blabbermouths.
2006-12-13 23:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by FucAlloYu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more or less it's curiousity about why you aren't jumping in on the social scene around you.
some people when they first meet me think I'm a major hard *** and have to be really careful around me. Once I warm up to them, they find that's only true when I or someone I care up is being harassed/threatoned.
2006-12-13 23:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with being shy. Some of the best people I know are shy and I love it.
2006-12-13 23:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people just dont feel like they have to say every little thing that comes to their mind and some people just can't keep their mouth shut it just depends on the person and the personality.
2006-12-13 23:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by naenae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people just wonder about you. if they're extraverted, they like to make conversations, and because you don't talk, that is all they know about you. if you want to converse, let out some more about yourself.
2006-12-13 23:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by lauren f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think "Shy" people are More Mature.
2006-12-13 23:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋