Do people think badly about shy/soft-spoken individuals?
Are these characteristics looked upon as flaws or blessings?
Would you want to be friends with those who are somewhat shy or soft-spoken?
2006-12-13 14:42:53 · 12 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Lots of questions. Let me see if I can help clarify things for you here.
Shy = insecure.
Soft-spoken = confident.
Neither is a flaw but BOTH are blessings.
A shy person needs to become more confident. Whether it is in a social setting or professional one, being shy usually means that the person is not comfortable in his/her surroundings or situations. Study what makes you uncomfortable more and then dive into what you have learned passionately. Don't give anyone control of YOUR opinions, life or thoughts.
You are, after all, a separate entity whose life, and the direction it goes in, is completely your own.
If you are soft-spoken, why become boisterous? Loud people are not necessarily more intelligent or people who are right about things. A person who is soft spoken usually gets others to stop bellowing long enough to actually HEAR what is being said.
Especially if the message is profound, interesting or helpful.
On a personal level, I would want to be friends with someone whose PERSONALITY agreed with mine; regardless of their presentation. However, I find drama-less associates more appealing. If you have those traits, realize that there are MANY people out there who would find your personality appealing. Just make sure that you are unafraid to be the person you are and to be honest with them always.
Good luck to you my friend, and thanks for posting.
2006-12-13 15:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by GMarieP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being shy and sensitive in general, unless you think there is an underlying issue? I have pretty much always been shy and sensitive, especially growing up, but in my early twenties when i started to avoid social situations, i knew there was other issues that needed addressing and after discussing it with two doctors i was diagnosed with social anxiety. I'm not saying this is the case with you because some people are just naturally shy, but it wouldn't hurt to speak to a professional if it worries you. Some of the most caring people who i know, or have ever met, have been shy and sensitive. It's just apart of who you are and it's an admirable trait to many people.
2016-03-29 06:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to an extent but if you can't stand up for yourself then you are going to have people run over you and use you like a mat on the floor. I am the same way. I have people tell me I am nice and in the same breath walking all over me and manipulating me. Be firm, and be kind but being soft spoken all the time is not a good thing. I still struggle with it.
2006-12-13 14:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For people who value shy and soft spoken, you would be a blessing. For those that do not, you might be considered "flawed".
But, who cares? A person needs to be who they are and let the chips fall where they may.
And then sometimes, opposites attract.
Life's weird.
2006-12-13 14:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-13 17:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bennie Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm shy but not as shy as I used to be. It's bad to be quiet and shy if your in theatre like me but I'm use to it now. I think that it's just a special personality that some people have but I wish I didn't have it at all anymore b/c I'm tired of being known as the quiet girl or the little shy one!
2006-12-13 14:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part I think its a blessing. You will be more approachable and viewed as more trustable. Some of my best friends are shy and softspoken which is good, they balance me out becuase I can get kinda mouthy. :)
2006-12-13 14:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like ever one else is saying it is both. I depends on the person who is viewing you. People attract to different people. In school teachers always like you because you are quiet but that is about the only reason i think. That case it is bad.
2006-12-13 14:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by Llama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is neither...
But being shy is a handicap which prevents you from interracting with other people.
You won't lose friends because of it...
The problem is that your shyness prevents you to go out there to find friends.
2006-12-13 14:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I'd call it either one. It really depends on the extent of shyness. Sometimes shyness comes off as arogance.
2006-12-13 14:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋