how can i build up my self esteem??

Question

you see im a really shy person and it's really hard for me to interact with other people, so what do you guys suggest i do about it??

Answer 1

i find that self esteem tape or cd, listenning to at nite helps.also the card idea is a good.

Answer 2

Every morning look at yourself in the mirror and say "I know I am a very------(listener, friend,cook) and "I look extremely beautiful today" and "I am a very interesting person" Smile and make yourself sound sincere as you say these things pretty soon you will start to believe them also find some kind of club to join where you can meet people who have similar interest
Another suggestion Try to smile at people you pass on the street and halls after a while try to say "hi"

Answer 3

Find things that you like to do, things at which you are good. Then get to meet people through those activities. Example: If you like to sing, join a choir. If you like running, join a running group. If you collect molds and fungi, um, I'm sure there's a group out there for that, too. ;) Pursuing your interests with like-minded people can give you something to talk about up front, an excuse to talk to people & get to know them. You know up front that you have something in common, which can make breaking the ice a lot easier, IMHO.

Answer 4

Are you active in anything? Clubs, school, work, sports? If not get active. You can start off joining for yourself to break out of the self conciousness and in the process also make some friends. They tend to grow on you even when you don't realize it.

Answer 5

First thing to do is GET AN IDEA OF THE TYPE OF PERSONALITY YOU WOULD LIKE TO HAVE.

Second thing to do is FIND WAYS TO DEVELOP PERSONALITY TRAITS YOU WOULD LIKE TO HAVE.

If you decide you would like to be an outgoing, friendly, confident type of person...

I recommend you practice approaching people and saying: "Hi."

After you notice it's relatively SAFE to say hi to people, select a question that you feel somewhat comfortable asking. Then... practice approaching people and asking "the question."

NOTE:
After asking "the question" you can usually avoid the ensuing conversation by simply saying: "Thanks for answering my question." then turning and walking away.

After you get comfortable with asking questions, practice GIVING INFORMATION.

Next would be... PRACTICE GENERAL CONVERSATION.

Eventually, you will notice you are no longer the shy person you once were.

Final Thought

If you really desire to overcome feelings of shyness, aim toward becoming a highly skilled salesperson.

Answer 6

Find a hobby you like to do. Also workout. Do something thats challenging,taking up something that is hard but attainable.
When its conquered you feel great. The same thing with school.

Answer 7

Don't worry about self-esteem right now. It is only an effect. You wouldn't worry about getting dry if you were still showering, right?
Treat people with integrity and - (for your end of the stick) demand (subtle-like) that they treat you with integrity.

Answer 8

Set realistic goals for yourself, goals that are obtainable and stay focused on them until you are the best at them better than anyone else. Now you are better than a lot of other people at something. People will come to you for your opinons and ideas on the subject.

Answer 9

i am a really shy person too, the other answer is really good. just try telling yourself things you like about yourself. It does help...

Answer 10

Being shy isn't the worst thing. Remind yourself daily of the things that you're great at, and tell yourself how great you are. and tell yourself. I LOve you! and give yourself a big hug.