Whats wrong with me?

Question

I'm in the 11th grade in highschool and i dont think im as confident as i was back when i was in the 8th and 9th grade. Now im just really shy but you not all that shy just to the point where some of the friends i said hi to back then i just pass in the hallway but now i see them i wanna say hi but idk im nervous about something. I hate this i dont want them to think that i dont want them as a friend i do what do i do? whats wrong with me?

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with you.. highschool is hard and trying to fit in and know what to do is just plan toture sometimes. You're older and you know more about what the world is like so you have more pressure and stress to worry about.

My advice to you is to push past your nervousness and say hello. Say hi to people you dont know. The odds are they are just as nervous and confused as you. Plus the more people you say hi to and interact with the less stressed you are going to be.

Its like worrying about a shot.. you build and build and build about how bad its going to be and in the end its a small few seconds of pain and you realize it wasnt that be of a deal. At the moment your brain is your biggest challenge.. press through it you can beat it..

Believe me it gets easier and easier the more you just keep on going.

Answer 2

What you're going through is very common. Especially in teens.

You are just subconciously afraid that if you entered into a conversation with them, that you would say something stupid and drive them away from you.

It's a fear of failure. The best way to overcome this, is to work your way into conversation gradually.

When you see them, just start out by smiling at them and giving them a quick brief Hi.

That won't hurt a bit. Do that a few times until you feel more comfortable, as they say Hi, back. It can be gradual.
When you feel you are ready,(if they don't approach you first, to talk), walk up and ask them, how have they been. Asked them what you've missed.

Once you FINALLY do it, it won't make you nervous any more.

Be brave. I promise. It will only be scary, the first time you do it.
After that, it will be really easy for you.

Good Luck and remember, nothing bad will happen. I promise.

Answer 3

Stop thinking about what they will think of you, you need to build confidence. You must not have been that shy to come onto this website and ask that question. Not that there is anything wrong with that but it is phase that you will grow out of. Try to help yourself by maybe taking a debate class or a speech class. There is nothing wrong with you. Confidence is key. If it is really hard to say hi back, try a gesture, a wave or a nod just to acknowledge them. Good Luck.

Answer 4

this is just the beginning of a thing we call life, your growing up and with the experiences of life you get tainted in the process. but eventually you will make yourself back to confidence. Change is going on still say hi but let them know its not them, apologize. I am 26 and I am a professional i work with people from the age of 22 to 55 and some are insecure and think one hi or bye will make or break a day....You are changing but they dont know that.... some people dont understand life... but you have to help them know its not them its you changing for the better....

Answer 5

I was a really shy person in high school..I just graduated by the way so were close in age....in high school people are so concerned with how they look and how others perceive them...i think that you should be confident in yourself...say to yourself " I don't care what people think of me, i am an individual, if others don't like the way i look, then don't look at me, why should i have to alter my life to satisfy others"....... be yourself, that's whats most important....not allowing other people change you....you are an individual, and unique in your own way, that's what makes you you.... don't change yourself for others...don't be shy to say hi...be yourself, bring out your personality, do things that make you happy.

Answer 6

Nothing's wrong with you. It's part of growing up, and part of teenage years. Just do your best and take it one step at a time. Say 'hi' to people you know, and then stretch to people you don't know. If it helps, have your friends go with you to join the parde of greetings. It may sounds odd, but it builds your confidence. Join drama club, speak up in class, and sing in chorus--anything that will break your shell. Best of all, be yourself. Don't feel pressured to do anything that's not you.

Answer 7

I feel the same way, except I am alot younger than you are.
Try to become involved in extra curricular activities, ie Debating and Sports. Here you can make friends with more people, and if you do debating you gain confidence in yourself.

Don't worry too much, that's apart of your nerves. If you still don't feel ok speak to your counselor at school.

Answer 8

Maybe you're just focusing right now. It's nothing wrong with being alone sometimes. There's nothing wrong with passing those friend's by in the hallway. along as you say hi then you're recognized. you're nervous that they are not your friends,and that they are talking about "how boring you are". You're not boring, your just smart. Stay out of trouble.

Answer 9

Smile and be yourself, they want to see the real you. Dont be afraid at what others might say. So many people try to stick to a mold of what others want them to be and they end of worse then when they started acting diffrent. Be your self and show confidence. Best Of Luck!

Answer 10

Nothing is wrong with you. Your personality is different and in order for you to fully understand it, I want to make a recommendation. Get out to a bookstore as fast as you can and get the book "Personality Plus" by Florence Littauer. Read that book from cover to cover and it will change your life forever. Good luck!