i just lost a best friend due to problems between me & her. she wants me to fight her after school. i'm so afraid. and another thing, because of so many other problems going on, i'v started hurting myself with sharp objects. what should i do. i need an answer ASAP!!! every night i would attempt killing myself but something keeps telling me try not to do this. i am a very devoted christian and i really am involved in the church youth group. i want to do so many things in life, but i'm not sure if i'm able to handle the stress anymore. if anyone has been through anything similar to this, you may be able to help me too. i've talked to our pastor, people at church and at school, and it's really helped me a lot. and is it true that if you do commit suicide you will go to hell? just asking.
2006-12-13 14:31:47 · 16 answers · asked by squidgetpj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well I know for sure that if you commit suicide, YOU WILL DIE!
Don't know about the hell part, but you will die. I call suicide a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Lot's of people think about suicide from time to time. It's normal, so there is no need to be alarmed by having the thought of suicide enter your mind. Get concerned when you start to really believe that it's a good idea.
Don't worry about your best friend. There will be plenty of new friends to be made. All you have to do is keep trying at life, & you will always find new people to meet. As for the fight, you owe her nothing, so you don't owe her a fight either. If she comes at you then it's assault, & you have the right to call in the cops & have her arrested, so take care of yourself.
About the cutting. You do this because you feel bad & are trying to make it go away, by using external pain to mask out the internal pain you are feeling. There are better ways to cope with internal feelings & anxiety, & one of them you already know very well. So keep talking to your pastor at the church, & anyone else who will lend a sympathetic ear. If you continue to cut yourself, then you must make sure your parents understand the situation so they can help you get the right guidance for new coping skills.
Just keep thinking of the wonderful things you plan to do with your life. That's called looking at the "big picture". Right now this stuff that's going on with your friend is small potatoes compared to the big picture, so if you stay focused on your future, your minor problems with your friends & such will shrink in size, & you will see a clearer path.
Be safe, & take good care of yourself. You deserve it!
2006-12-13 14:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna even entertain the question about you committing suicide because that's not even an option. Think about what you are saying. You're willing to take a precious gift away from you that God granted you (life) over some bull that will not last always. Babe...no troubles last always. YOu're just now getting in the tunnel but trust me there is light at the end of every tunnel. Your friend can't hate you forever. And if she does, then she wasn't a friend to begin with. Someone once asked me what was the difference between friends and associates. Associates are temporary and friends are permanent. Where am I going with this? The point is .....stick around. Don't kill yourself. You're gonna miss when your friend ask you for forgiveness. More so than that there are more people that will come into your life. You don't need her.
2006-12-13 22:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Gutta chick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Killing yourself is not the answer, you don't know how many people you hurt doing that. February 3rd, 2006 I was 5 months pregnant and found my dad at his house with a bullet in his head. How do you think I had felt? I still cry to this day. I miss him so much and what hurts the most is I was going to give him his first granddaughter and now he won't even get to see her. What also hurts is that May 2005 I was a suicide attempt and my dad told me nothing or anyone is worth killing yourself over and look what he put his family through. I am pregnant again with another little girl and he won't see her either. You truthfully don't know how many people love you until you are gone and a friend is not worth it at all, if anything she would be there for you. Friends come and go, you can always find someone better!
2006-12-13 22:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by me_myself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't do the suicide thing!!! Think about it, it doesn't solve anything. And stop with the sharp objects - there are better ways to solve your problems. Sure, emotional anguish is very strong and painful, but you can make it through this, trust me, been there, done that. Please talk to someone about your feelings of suicide, listen carefully to what they have to say, remember that you are a child of God, and you have value beyond what you realize. God has a plan for you, and if you kill yourself, that plan is lost, don't do it!!!! You don't want to go against God do you? Believe me, better times will come. Just keep being honest, with yourself as well as other people, and trust that things will become better. You have to work towards making them better, though. Talk to everyone you can trust about how you feel. It's important to get your feelings off your chest and out in the open, it will allow you deal with them better. Remember, today will be gone tomorrow, and you will have a new day to deal with. Just take it one day at a time. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-12-14 09:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by justcurious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just lost a best friend too. As a matter of fact I'm on the phone right now trying to not cry anymore. But since your a devoted Christian I don't think that you should try to commit suicide. If God puts you in it, He'll take you through it. He's always there waiting for you to talk to him and he's happy to hear from you every day and when you read the Bible it makes him happy. He's testing you. He wants you to become a stronger person. Trials come to make you strong. Just stick in there and God will make everything alright.
Hope you make the right decision. Please make the right decision. God loves you.
J-Dub
2006-12-13 22:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thank you for bringing your question forward. It is a good sign that you are asking for help! Keep asking for help! You WILL get through this! I PROMISE! just take some time and try to relax! try and keep your mind occupied with an activity or a hobbie or other frieds and family! If you start to feel upset call a hotline or someone close to you! Go to church and pray! you WILL GET THROUGH THIS! I have been there and I am speaking from experience! Just give it some time and try to figure out what is upsetting you the most!
2006-12-13 22:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK # 1, stop cutting yourself. Loosing a friend can be very tramatic. (expiernce) Make new friends in your youth group. It's always good to have christian friends by your side. That's what helped me. That's good that you've talked with your pastor. Pray to God and ask Him what you should do. Hand all of your problems over to Him. Stop thinking about suicide. God put you on earth for a reason. And He doesn't want one of His children taking their life. Don't kill yourself! You have yet to fufill you purpose. Get out there and make new friends. Don't fight her. Violence doesn't solve anything. Talk to your principal and aware him of the sitchuatin. (sorry of my misspellings) God bless you and all of your choices and your in my prayers
~*~ Im St Jimmy ~*~
2006-12-13 22:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Amazing...* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exodus 20:13 says thou shall not kill. This not only imply on killing others but taking one's own life as well. It is God's will for you to live and enjoy your life. . Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. We are stewards not owner therefore it is our duty to take good care of our body by living a Christ centered life and living a God honoring lifestyle. Therefore we do not destroy it . And if one commits suicide for whatever reason, he disobeys the word of God by committing the sin of murder.
Revelation 21:8 says that " But the fearful, and unbelieving and the abominable and MURDERERS and whoremongers and sorcerers and idolaters and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burned with fire and brimstone which is the second. death.
Have you not heard that we die only once? But the bible mentioned about the second death which will take place in hell .I would like to encourage you to read and meditate on God's word and pray that Jesus' blood protection be upon you that you will be delivered from the oppression of the enemy.
2006-12-13 23:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok you need help..you need to go to a doctor because you are now hurting yourself....and thinking about suicide. Fighting is not the answer. Be the bigger person and walk away, regardless if people make fun of you or call you a wus....in the end you win....once they grow up they will realize the same thing. Violence is never the answer. Please see a doctor about your other problem...please don't cut yourself...your a beautiful person and god created you for a reason....he does not want you to hurt yourself or kill yourself.....
2006-12-13 22:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by Molly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you do cause a lot of harm to your relatives if you commit suicide.Life is short anyways..but you can have many friends all along that way..friends come and go.If you are on holidays go the homeless people house and help them to have a nice holiday.If people dont want to be your friend..be friends with those who needs one.
2006-12-13 22:40:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kaushall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋