Our 11 week old little girl likes to be held. If put down when asleep she will soon wake and start to cry. The crying will escalate to full on screaming till she's picked up. Once up she's fine. I can't carry her 24-7, is this normal 11 week old behavior or am I starting a bad habbit?
2006-12-13 14:30:50 · 18 answers · asked by Tyler M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You are not starting a bad habit. My daughter, as soon as she was born, wanted to be held ALL the time. When she was old enough I carried her in a Snugli front carrier, and she loved it. And it helped me burn off my baby weight!! You know you burn way more calories when you're lugging around a kid! My best friend had a baby at the same time, and she didn't hold her daughter as much, and now, at age 2, my daughter is much better adjusted. She's much more independent. My friend's daughter is whiny and clingy. I think when they are so young they just need reassurance. Only when your baby feels safe will she venture out on her own. But I understand the need to have time to set the baby down--try a swing or vibrating seat.
Also, after she falls asleep while you're holding her, make sure you swaddle her tightly in her favorite blankie before lying her down. Then, hold her with both hands for a minute or two. Then remove one hand, then the other. It worked for mine! Good luck. Don't be afraid to ask for help!
2006-12-13 14:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by ky-ky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is gassy, and laying down hurts? If she wants to be upright try laying her down and strapping her into the car seat to see if that makes a difference in how long she will nap. Otherwise, you cannot spoil a baby that young, they are going by instinct. The brain is telling your daughter that somthing isn't quite right, and better cry to have mom or dad make it all better. When my daughter was that young she would only sleep for short periods of time as well. She will sleep longer the older she gets. If you feel exauhsted or frustrated have grandma, dad, or a trusted friend watch her for a few hours so you can get out and treat yourself to some free time!
2006-12-13 14:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by dolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless something is wrong, it can be a spoiled thing. But at 11 weeks, I would think that is a little young for attention seeking. My daughter cried alot and I suppose she was colic or something. I held her all the time and even strapped her on my back when I made supper. When I would put her down to go to the bathroom i would hold my breath waiting for the screaming. The times she was content and happy I thought something was wrong. She got better by 6y monts
2006-12-13 14:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When we hold a baby, they are nice and warm. In the winter time, when we lay them in bed, the sheets are COLD. I heard that this sometimes wakes the baby when you put her down.
I put a heating pad on the lowest setting on her bed while I was taking care of her. When time to put her down, I moved the heating pad and touched the sheet to make sure it wasn't too warm. Laying her down on the warm sheet worked like a charm!
Also, we don't realize how warm our hair keeps our head until we lose it. Little bald babies probably would feel more comfy if we kept little caps on them (unless they were someplace very warm).
Also, I was exhausted by feeding her every 2 hours day and night. THe doctor suggested I put just a little cereal in a night-time bottle of formula so that she would sleep longer. I breast fed her the rest of the time. It really helped her and me both!
Hope you all get some rest!
2006-12-13 14:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by allkell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're starting a good habit. Have you heard of Dr Sears? He calls your baby a high-need baby. He has lots of good, sensitive advice on
2006-12-13 15:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell if this is just normal baby behavior or a bad habit, but either way it has to stop. You are no good to your baby if you haven't had any rest! First of all, if you think it's possible she is sick, take her to the doctor. Otherwise, if you know she has been fed and has a clean diaper, you're going to have to just let her cry for awhile. This will take some getting used to, but it is the only way to break the habit. Good luck!
2006-12-13 14:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by hwmabire3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's very normal- she just wants to be close to you. I know it is SOOOO frustrating but try to carry her as much as you can. That will help her become a happier baby. You are not starting a bad habit- you are just meeting her needs. The need to be held is a legitimate need just as much as other needs. You absolutely need a sling (http://www.mayawrap.com) That will help you tremendously to be able to wear your daughter, which it sounds like is what she needs right now, but still have your hands free. Babywearing is very popular with babies and moms tend to like it, too, since the babies cry less.
Check out this website:
http://www.nineinnineout.org/
2006-12-13 14:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My little girl did the same thing. first thing is you have to go through all the steps.... wet or poopie diaper, gas, hot or cold, hungry, or temp. if nothing is wrong she may have colic or she has acid reflux ( my daughter had acid reflux). Put her in the car and drive around for anywhere from 15-30 mins. we did this with my daughter for the first 6 months. yes it puts a strain on your gas buget but it was worth it for us to get some peace and quiet. i don't think that this is a bad habit. and it certianly isn't spoiling her( my doctor even told me this). wishing you the best of luck.
2006-12-13 14:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by my_immortal_love2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh your baby has got you tied around her little finger and she isn't going to stop this behavior until you put a stop to it.....my son used to do the same thing I used to think I was such a bad parent but....I learned that baby's are smart and will use you to there advantage and will stop at nothing to get there own way....you have to be strong and put an end to this behavior....let her scream.....after a week or so of not giving in she should stop.....
2006-12-13 17:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. YOu can't spoil a baby. some babies need to be held to be comfortable. try putting her down and stay with her for a while to get her used to the idea youre there. hold her, etc.
2. Ear infections could make her cry too when laid down - i would rule out any medical ailments first.
good luck
2006-12-13 14:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by klumzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋