how do you know when your marriage is over?

Question

are there any signals that you can deal with before it's too late?

Answer 1

when you're asking strangers on "Yahoo Answers"

Answer 2

It should not be too late, Its a marriage and sticking to your vows is how you deal with it. If a marriage feels hopeless and over, then its time to bring someone who is trained and educated on helping put a marriage back on track. IT doesn't happen over night maybe a year or more. But the key is don't have divorce as an option unless the situation is extreme like continuous affairs or physical abuse. You would be surprised at what marriages can make it through if the commitment is there

Answer 3

Is it time to call it quits?

Instructions
•STEP 1: Be realistic. If you're being abused, hurt, cheated on or lied to, it's time to cut your losses and get out.
•STEP 2: Think about the future you're creating. If your partner is jealous, obsessive, possessive or overly emotional, consider the extra burden you are carrying in dealing with those behaviors.
•STEP 3: Is he a shameless flirt? Is she bossy? Demanding? Insecure? These are more signs of a rocky road ahead.
•STEP 4: Do you truly enjoy each other's company, or do you find yourself relieved whenever you part company? If the latter, it doesn't bode well.
•STEP 5: Evaluate your role in maintaining the relationship. If you feel as if you're doing all the work, it's time to talk or walk.
•STEP 6: Does he promise to call and then forget? Is she terminally late? Be honest with yourself. Is this what you want?
•STEP 7: Do you feel accepted and appreciated? If not, move on.

Tips & Warnings
•Make sure you want to end the relationship because the person is wrong for you and not because you fear commitment. You don't want to send Prince Charming packing just because you have commitment jitters.

Answer 4

!! Its over when you begin on think in that but it is not the only sign !!!
when he avoid you as if you were absent but you are there just in front of him
when he doesn't like your friends neither share with them
when he has another woman
when he did not care about you and your opinions ,believes
you begin to dude about him
when you begin to change yourself
when you begin to try to change all his way to be
when he cheat on you
when one of you become disrespectful in public and at home to the other
when the commumication stop
when you listen more to yor emotions than yur heart
when you give up
When you don't want to be where he is
When you ignore him
when you become jealous, obsessive, possessive
when you dont let him being
when you two stop to smile and laught to each other
when you forgett he choose you and not other
when you become angry for every stage he did o didn't d done
when you lost the feeling to understand that no one can be perfect as you are
When you decide to stop loving him
but essentialy ...when you get married not being prepared to be ...

But also those signals can change if you want to and when you will be able to realice and accept that he got your heart and yu are so affraid and insecure to give him all that love he probably feels for you ...

Make a list of his well and bad behavior or dislike and compare it whith the one ypu did before married him. if you find more than 50% of negatives changes in yur husband... may be yu find your owm answer . Stop thinking help a lot... just let yur heart feel and then decide it is over or not . You will know .

Answer 5

When you don't care anymore whether he is there or not, whether he sleep on the couch or floor...whether he is moving with some one else and it doesn't bother you. It's time to close th book and move on.

Having said that, there is no relationship that is not workable if the two people start behaving like grown ups and listen to each other to solve or resolve their differences. The problem is when pride crops in, no one listen except the neighbors and then silence crops in...then death to the marriage. Sad. very sad. Don't let it happen to you baby, do something about it, you are the sober one, you Can bring some sanity in that relationship, and you will be glad you did.

Answer 6

I think that when two people no longer talk, or care or confide in one other, the marriage is over. Sometimes couples grow apart and let it go on until it's too late. If you still love him then maybe counseling will work. It won't be easy. Ask yourself if it's worth the effort.

Answer 7

Come on people, we don't know enough to say "it.s over, cause she is asking us, ect..."
You know how emotional us women are.
Listen, your marriage could be just fine, it could be your emotions are getting the best of you. Like mine these days, I have been married to an almost perfect man, we don't have many problems at all, but for some reason I get these periods where I feel its not good enough or I am not being understood, ect.. when I ask my husband, well he knows how to deal with my emotions after 25 years. If your marriage is worth fighting for, than fight the fight. Good luck, and all the best!!
Now your getting some good, smart ann_swers. Good job people!!!

Answer 8

It might sound silly at first, but I beleive in this: When the couple doesn't share laughs anymore, for example, you find yourself sitting together to dinner for a whole week, and not once did anyone say anything funny or share a story that made you smile, this is when its over. Of course if there is a crisis going on in your life, there might be weeks without any sense of humor, I only mean it in a normal everyday situations

Answer 9

When he shuts down...and he starts to spend more time doing other things he did not do before. When he doesn't want to sleep with you or he finds fault with everything you do or say. He keeps his phone with him at all times, or shuts it off around you. When he tells you lies. If he spends too much time on the internet, in chat rooms, or has a personal online. He is in a bad mood all the time. There are many signs but women know when it is over, we just do! It is a gut instinct we have.

Answer 10

When you sincerely have tried all avenues to save the marraige e.g gave all the time needed, compromise, given your best to save the relationship and if it still does not work.
You should try a separation first, counselling and gather advise from religous group before going for a divorce.

Good Luck.

Answer 11

The way to know your marriage is over, is when you have no feelings, at all, for your spouse, one way or another, no hate, no love, no animosity, nothing, and you have exhausted all avenues of reconciliation. Then, it's time to put the relationship to bed, and just be civil co-parents, if you have children.

Do your absolute best to not get to this point, especially if you have children. You need to take care of your relationship, not only for yourselves, but for them. Good luck.