For a little while, my husband and I lived seperately, until we managed to sell our old houses and now we moved to a new house together. His kids are coming over to stay with us for the weekend, and this will be the first time they are seeing us sharing a bed. My husband suggested that when the kids are around, we will sleep in seperate beds but I don't like that suggestion. I think they kids will get more confused. What is the right behavior? Should we talk with them ahead of time and explain the situation?
2006-12-13 14:13:30 · 22 answers · asked by Ladybug NH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The kids are my husband's kids from his previous marriage ...
2006-12-13 14:19:36 · update #1
The kids are 9 (boy) and 4 (girl)
2006-12-13 14:20:26 · update #2
If you make a big deal of it, the kids will think it is a big deal. The best idea is to just not act like this is odd. If the kids ask, tell them that you are married and married couples share a bed.
2006-12-13 14:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it seeme like you do have a bit of a problem.
I am suggesting that you talk to the kids explaining why this is happening, and perhaps maybe make sure they are okay with it. If they aren't maybe you should sleep in seperate beds for that weekend. I think personally that they shouldn't have a problem with it but they will be suprised if you don't explain things to them!
2006-12-13 14:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mind sending me what United States Act clearly states that is is illegal for a man to sleep in the same bedroom as a child? Because I'm DYING to know. You're not building a good argument by just giving us 'facts' that aren't even illegal in the first place, hunny bunch. Let's just say that this **** ain't going to hold up in a court of law. I can bloody well guarentee you that. You'd be laughed out.
2016-05-23 22:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You’re married. Married people share a bed. I would imagine the kids know that (although you didn’t state how old they are, but even very young children figure this out very early). This should not be an issue, so why is it?
2006-12-13 14:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband, you two have every right in the world to sleep together. If the kids ask you simply say this is what married people do.
2006-12-13 14:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to explain anything to your kids. You are adults and are married. You can sleep in the same bed and in fact are supposed to.
2006-12-13 14:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I am only 18, but I am still a kid. If my mom was never told me anything like that, I would be really mad. It's like having a lying mom, so just tell your kids the truth. They'll understand, they're your kids.Well taking advice from an 18 year seems wrong, but I hope it helps.
2006-12-13 14:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jeany 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's your husband you sleep together. the kids know that husbands and wives sleep together.... it won't be a shock to them. I think he just likes the extra space when he's sleeping alone. You must have lived separately too long. damn flat housing market
2006-12-13 14:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are married. The kids needs to get use to you sharing your married life and that normally means one bed.
2006-12-13 14:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are married, by all means sleep together. How old are the kids? If they are little they will not understand anyway. If they are older, they know you are married right?
2006-12-13 14:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋