do people who are inadequate deserve to have low self-esteem?

Question

i have heard people say things that imply this here on yanswers and am just wondering what y'all think.

Answer 1

A person who does the right thing because it is the right thing to do. A person who gives them self selflessly. A person who tries to go to his full potential. These are not inadequate. People who stand in front of a mirror telling themselves "great things " or those who take some artificial, psychobabelistic way to self esteem. Yes, low self esteem can be deserved.

Answer 2

Everyone is "inadequate" in some area. The big problem is that some people need others around them to be less, so they can perceive them selves as more. They promote a sense of inadequacy in others out of their own weakness.

Self esteem is your own opinion of yourself. IF you allow others to set it for you- it probably won't be much. Take charge of it and act in the way that earns your own respect, and it will quickly grow.

Find what you have, and make the most of it. To thine own self be true!

Answer 3

low self esteem is only deserved if a person does not live up to their full potential. you may be socially inadequate, phsycially inadequate, but if you do volunteer work constantly, if you are always doing good things. you ought to have higher self esteem than some arrogant person who has a ph.d and a beautiful face.

Answer 4

Let's drop the notion of "inadequacy" right away. Who defines adequacy? Inadequacy? For what? I can't run a mile in under 4 minutes. Does that make me inadequate when compared to champion runners. But there are others things I can do. I can't make money singing, probably because I can't sing. Does that make me inadequate? I can't play professional basketball either. But there are probably many things I can do that many others can't do. Who is adequate and who is inadequate? Can I find self-esteem in what I can do? Yes. But self esteem is something we're all entitled to...because we all should be our own best friend. Love and honor yourself as unique and wonderful and magnificent in the universe. Be comfortable with yourself. There is no reason to be compared with anyone...except for matters that have nothing to do with personal worth. Remember, I can't play pro basketball, but I refuse to compare myself with Shaq (except I'm better looking).

Answer 5

Your level of self esteem is based upon the unique experiences and personal relationships that have made up your life. Whereas positive and fulfilling relationships help raise your self esteem, negative experiences and troubled relationships tend to lower self esteem. Experiences within your family, at school, or within your society all influence your self esteem. For example, if your family always compared you to others and was never satisfied with your performance, then your self esteem may be adversely affected. Or, for example, if your parents were not attuned to your needs, you may not have felt understood and attended to and this can also compromise self-esteem. Poor performance in school, especially if criticized by classmates and teachers, can also negatively affect self esteem as it may leave you feeling incompetent in comparison to others.

Answer 6

Interesting question. It may be that they do deserve to have low self-esteem, but it may be that they do not. Moreover, low self-esteem may lead people to feel/act inadequate/inadequately, thus becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. We should ask Dr. Phil. He knows everything about the mind and feelings and stuff.

Answer 7

No they don't. Just because they aren't adequate in some areas doesn't mean they are in other areas. People should be a little more courteous of people's feelings when they answer questions. And they should be a little more constructive with their criticism if criticism is warranted.

I know we have all heard this growing up. "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

Answer 8

no, of course not. life arbitrarily deals out characteristics to people. some are abundant in good qualities, others are inadequate. you take what you get, you feel happy with yourself. no, they shoudl not have low self esteem. we shall help them realize the good in them!

Answer 9

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