a woman when he starts a affair with her. Is he there just for exciting sex? And if the affair continues for half a year or more does it mean that he has feelings her and the sex is good or both.What if he decides to stay with the wife and not get a divorce,does this mean he truly cares for the wife more or is just afraid he'll lose his shirt,but still wants to continue the affair that his wife knows nothing about.
2006-12-13 14:00:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know a few guys and girls who did it ...it was only the money....not the kids ...not the house ...just the money.....sad isnt it.....
2006-12-13 14:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an affair but temptation is always there for most guys. There are the times when a men is unhappy with his marriage and he may make a mistake he would normally would not. Then there are the times that he does not care about being unfaithful and just does it for the sex and excitement of "new flesh," and there are the times when some women don't care if a men is married and they will go after him until he gives in.
Most times, a men will stay with his wife (if she does not kick him out) and the "other" will be just that, the "other" and gone.
2006-12-13 14:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by nowhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you want to believe that he cares about you and will one day leave his wife for you...it won't happen...Sometimes it does happen, but do you really want to be with someone who cheated on his wife to be with you? Now you have to wonder if he will do the same to you...Of course you won't let your mind wander that way though because he would NEVER do that to you. You won't make the same mistakes the wife did right? You can't trust this man so how do you even know what he's saying is the truth.
Here is the thing. When a man cheats on his wife, he cares about his wife and depending on the man and how many women he is cheating with, he might actually care about his mistress. However, he cares about himself and his selfish reasons more than either of you. If he is messing with just one other person and you know this for sure, then he probably does care for the mistress, but that doesn't mean he cares enough to leave his wife...The mistress is just a temporary distraction until he and his wife get back on track or until he gets caught. When I say temporary, that could be for a month or 3 years....but he ain't going anywhere unless the wife tells him to leave.
I've even heard some married men say that if they do leave their wives, they aren't going to even consider being with the women that they were cheating with because that would be jumping from one relationship to the next and they don't want that...
2006-12-13 14:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man is having an affair but refuses or decides not to divorce the wife it simply means he is a selfish prick and wants the best of both worlds.
2006-12-13 15:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely something is lacking...either in his relationship at home or him period. He can not and should not put the two women through this. He needs to grow up and figure out what he wants and remember that there are other people involved that will and can be hurt by his actions. If he is married their is a possibility of children being involved, he should be a better example to them. Show them 1) I still care about you as a father but your mother and I have chosen to not be married but we will be as amicable for the sake of all involved. 2) If there are no children and/or they have grown up and moved out. That would mean that they have been married for many years and he owes her some respect and should be able to communicate with her that he has grown apart and would like to move on. 3) If it is only an exciting sexual encounter then there are things married couples can do to spice it up. But all in all he needs to not burn the candle at both ends, eventually he will get burned as well as the two women involved.
2006-12-13 14:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by prayingangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you I was involved with a married man for three years. I don't think they love anybody but THEM!!! How can you hurt people that you are suppose to love? You don't continue to hurt people over and over, but they do. In the end it doesn't matter they won't leave. Really sounds like someone that is unhappy doesn't it? If you are thinking about getting involved with a married man or are already involved with you - get out. All you are doing is prolonging the heart ache. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-13 14:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by Redhead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you know the answer already. Men cheat because they are depressed and insecure. Instead of dealing with their emotions, they go out and find a distraction from them. In the end, even if he left his wife, you will loose. How can you ever trust him? If he really cares for you, he would never ask you to play second fiddle, regardless of the financial consequence. Have enough respect for yourself to walk away before the damage to your character is irreversible. Be strong!!!
2006-12-13 14:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Indievoter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, it is just about the sex. Even if he did leave his wife, for the homewrecker, he will eventually cheat on the homewrecker with someone else! The guy sounds like a real jerk.
2006-12-13 14:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I can tell you about a man who will cheat on his wife....he will cheat on you, too. Also, what he says cannot be trusted. He is using 2 women for what he gets from them. Doesn't sound like a real winner to me.
2006-12-13 14:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe that those who stray have more issues than sex?something missing from the beginning? love not returned or misinterpeted?for some its an adventure? some a habit or sex addiction or self destructive behavior? bad news whatever it is?
2006-12-13 14:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by richard c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just want's what society says he can't have. It's a guy thing.
You should move on and make better choices next time.
2006-12-13 14:07:46 · answer #11 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋