Why do men judge women by their looks and not by who they really are?

Question

It seems to me that most men judge a women by her looks and not for the person she truly is. They don't realize just what they are missing out on.

and we all know that if a guy see's a girl who is not so pretty he will pass her right by without even giving her a chance???

Answer 1

Women do exactly the same thing, except people don't like to talk about it. I judge women by their looks to some extent. I'm not being mean to them, but there are just some that I will not consider dating. I would consider dating anyone decent looking with a pleasant personality though. I'm just avoiding the blimps and the mutants for the most part. I don't know if you're asking this from experience or because you heard it somewhere and wanted to jump in on it. But it's kind of annoying to see someone make such a generalization. Good night!

Answer 2

It's in the biology but it doesn't mean we have to accept it. Also, rather than struggling with the Why, I recommend we try and answer the How, as in how women can be educated to treat men more nicely. No man should accept this aspect of female behavior. Women need to judge men based on psychological qualities such as morality, IQ, motivation, sexiness, etc. When women judge men based on their accessories, and I know this to be a fact from personal experience, there is a problem and it needs to be rectified.

Answer 3

Sad but true, speaking as a man. Most men do. As for me I don't think I judge women by their looks, but It's the first thang I see. I guess what I need to know is what you mean by ( judge women). Are you talking about dating or like saying a girl is a slut for the way she dresses?

Answer 4

Its the first thing anyone will notice about another person. In todays world its just how most people are. I think most people think of it like this. they see two people of the opposite sex in a bar. one is good looking and the other is average. if you were to pick one to meet and to get to know better who would you pick. I work with a very attractive girl and at one time she was interested in me but i heard from some other co-workers that she is a b!Tc# the first day i was there so i didn't act on it. If i wouldn't have heard this i would have gone out with her in a second. I think if people knew what a person was like before they even met them looks wouldn't matter as much

Answer 5

On some level we all judge each other on looks.. we have been brought up to do so. We use it to tell things like who looks more likely to help us in a store, who at work may be someone to avoid... and yes looks help us know who we are attracted too.

I am attracted to blonde hair blue eyed guys... and they are instantly the ones I notice when I walk in a room. I believe its the same for guys. Its whether we can get past the first atrraction to consider something else. If I have the opportunity I do.. but I dont go out of my way to go against what I know I already like.

Its like at a restuarnt.. you order what you like .. even though there are plenty of other things to choose. If you get the rare chance at meetings someone outside your tastes and have the time to find out you like them too thats great.. but in today's fast paced world.. its rare and unlikely.. sad as it may be.

Answer 6

I don't think that is always the case. Some men are totally capable of seeing the beauty within a person. While it may be true that physical attraction is important relationship-wise, at the end of the day, I think we all want to be with someone we actually like.

Answer 7

Sad to say that that is most of the time what we notice first about a person as it is what shows first ~ but there are alot of great guys out there who do judge what is inside also ~

Answer 8

A lot of men judge women soley on their looks however the truely mature men (the ones you actually want) look deeper than the surface.

Answer 9

we judge a book on looks, to find attraction women do it too, u got to have a attraction in somebody before the fuse inigtes and become and love, most men are pigs and look at the body, but real beauty is a pretty face, but we dont blow women who are unappealing completely off we just can see theirs no love interest, but men like a lil attration in lust before we can open the book, hope i made sense, just remember all men r different, but sometimes we do miss out on girls that really sweet just we men like finding real quality, and u sound pretty to me all women r cute but i need one who takes my breathe and i become focused on her missing the side girls, becuase us guys are stupid sometimes we miss a chapter in the book on the sideline when we go after girls

Answer 10

I think that's true at first for most people though. We judge each other when we first meet , based on what we see. Later, as you spend time with the person you begin to like them for their personality , sense of humor,etc. Of course, you will always have the guys who just want a trophy on their arm...steer clear of them.