Well me and him have been friends for a while you know. I meet him through my cousin. He is really nice when he wants to be. I mean we get along great but you know I feel that there is Sexual frustration. He told me the other day he didnt want to hang out with just me because he was afraid something might happen. How am I supposed to take that you know. Me and him did something once but I thought it was an accident you know. Then I thought maybe he was just experimenting because he still goes with girls. But he flirts with me all the time and my friends see it. I dont know what to do. I need some help should I try and pursue him or just let it go. I mean I really like him. I dont know if he knows how much I like him but he should I mean I buy thngs like there is no tomorrow. I let him have a hundred dollars becuase he was negative in his account and everything. Well let me know what you think. And yes we are both over 18 Im 20 and he is 19.
2006-12-13 13:53:31 · 11 answers · asked by brandenbaby 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wow, there are some really good answers already on this one! I would just like to add something. If you do speak with your friend about your feelings, be sure not to put the focus on him, in particular. Make it about YOUR feelings, as opposed to his feelings. He will talk about himself if he's ready. But if you are just telling him about your feelings, he'll probably speak up then. But, I also agree that you shouldn't "wait" for the guy to come out. If he doesn't respond after your 'talk', stay friends, but don't prevent yourself from experiencing life. ~ Peace
2006-12-13 15:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by flip4it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By you saying that he told you that he didn't want to hang out with you because he was afraid something might happen makes me think that he is gay but doesn't want to be labeled as gay. Don't pursue him him and look around for someone else, but don't completely let it go if you really like him just to see if he ends up being comfortable with liking other guys or not. If you only concentrate on liking him while he isn't comfortable with liking other guys, you are limiting yourself from meeting someone who is more open about who they are attracted to. (Also, don't give your money away unless you want to be viewed as a bank and be asked again and again for money).
2006-12-13 14:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u said you two did something he's probably at least bisexual. after what i heard the guy might just be using you to buy him stuff and lend him money...thats not very nice, but if thats not the issue maybe he is just confused. you should probably talk about your feelings with him. so you will find out where you stand. but in the end if he's not what you expected, move on, no guy is worth hanging on to if they dont feel the same you'll just end up hurting and thats not nice :)
2006-12-13 14:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by sexyashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you are gay? If so, do something & see what happens. If he objects, say "oops sorry" then you could still be friends and be free to look for someone else less costly. (in more ways than one)
2006-12-13 22:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Psychic Sk8r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some more time together and tell him that it makes no difference if anything happens because you two are still friends. If he smiles, tell him how you feel.
2006-12-13 15:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. There's no shame in asking. Maybe he needs your support or someone he can just feel warm around. If he is gay, he needs support to find himself before committing to any relationship.
2006-12-13 14:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by Leighton H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough question...hmmm...it's easier said than done, but i'd say remain friends...if he is gay, eventually he will come out to you...but you have to watch out because once he's out, he would want to try many things and you might not be involved with it...
so i say, remain friends...but don't wait for him...there will be other guys that will show you what you how to be treated...not just when they need you...
2006-12-13 14:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that he might be bisexual? Wants the best of both worlds? :) The next time he makes a move, go for it.
2006-12-13 13:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Bluebear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off by looking at porno webs and invite him over lock the door. Start masturbating, if he says he's not interested he's not, if he is offered if he wanna do it and get some ultra ribbed condoms.
2006-12-13 18:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by Red Panda 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well ask him questions and see what happens
2006-12-13 14:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by hcazsok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋