my husband and i have gone thru so much since we were 15 y/o. we;ve been together 8 years and have 2 kids boy(4) and girl (5). i always wanted 3 kids. and i just started thinking that i didnt want to wait til my kids were older to have the last one, i dont wanna start all over again after so many years. buts and ifs are bothering me. who's gonna babysit, while am at work, money is always a fear, we are ok now, we do struggle at times but always get through it. my last pregnancies where horrible, we were 17y/o and getting evicted, and i lost more than 15 pounds in 3 weeks, coulnt even drink water. the 2nd was worse we didnt have money, i had to buy my babys clothes in a 2nd hand store i used to work at. i would be alone at nights after he was born because my husband had 2 jobs. we are stable now. and so much happier. but am afraid, of what i dont know.
2006-12-13 13:32:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
we do wanna adopt that is one of our plans when we own our home
2006-12-13 14:27:41 · update #1
first of all congatulations for being able to make it until now.i see that you are one tough person.
well,if both u n your husband have already discussed about this and think that it would be ok,then go ahead,have your 3rd child.who knows..thic child might bring more happiness to your family.i believe that you know.
You have already gone thru the hardship,so i'm positive you will also survive whatever hardship (if any) that comes along in the future, with or without this 3rd baby.
Honestly,i hope you will decide to have the 3rd child.
2006-12-13 13:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by CinnamonCity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After all you went through with your first two kids, do you really feel like you wish you wouldn't have done it or is it like "It's hard, but I'm glad we have them?" If you're in a stable marriage, I don't think you will regret having a child. Maybe for a moment at 3 am sometime, but overall you will be very happy you decided to have the child. If you don't have another, then there will always be the "what if" question in your mind. I say go for it. Sure it will be hard but it will be worth it.
Having to buy a baby's clothes in a second hand store is not that bad. I buy pretty much all of my daughter's clothes second-hand, not because I can't buy them new, but because I'd rather put our money in savings. We struggled a lot financially when my daughter was little. Now we're having another baby and I can afford to do a lot of things differently, but I'm still going to do everything pretty much the same just to save money.
2006-12-13 13:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once I see a youthful pregnant female i don't decide except i comprehend the situations. She could have been raped. or perchance if she wasnt she could have been in love with a boyfriend of 5 years. shall we are saying it grew to become right into a liked boyfriend in the event that they were mutually a minimum of a twelve months and a 0.5 and did what they did for the suited motives i see no reason to decide. They didnt do it on objective. There are billions of different youth doing the comparable issues they only dont take place to get pregnant. There are adults who've one evening stands continually so why is that ok yet a teenager who basically so happens to get pregnant together with her bf of four months isn't ok? i think what im attempting to declare is a pregnant teenager shouldnt be judged except you already know all the small print.
2016-10-14 21:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you're afraid of going back to the way things were. If you have to quit your job then you could end up back in the 2nd hand store and losing your home.
do you have enough savings to support you through the possibility of losing your job or is your husband making enough money that you could afford to quit if you had to? Look at your monthly budget, is there room for daycare expenses or even a babysitter that comes to your home? If the answer to these questions is "no", then maybe you should reconsider the 3rd child. If you think you can make it work so that the children you already have arent' suffering a detriment, then go for it!
2006-12-13 13:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy with the kids you have?soes it really need to be three?It sounds like your not really sure you want to.maby even like your trying to find reasons no too.Theres nothing wrong with stopping at two and be happy with that even thought you wanted three in the begining. As a Possable option or two how about adopting a child?That way you also get the chance to help someone that without someone like you would not have a chance for much in life. Maby babysit another child in the neighboorhood for a few days . See what it would be like to have another child. Sit down and talk with your husband about why you want another child. Write out a list of how it would change your life. make a pro and con list. Could it be that you just miss having a baby to hold ect.
2006-12-13 13:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by sullyflower 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well ultimately the choice is up to you - it is not something that strangers can help you decide (unfortunately).
The best thing I can recommend is sitting down and having a good chat with your husband about your concerns. Is he open to the idea of another child? What are his concerns?
In terms of childcare etc, if you really want another baby then you will find a way to cope - and obviously you have in the past so you know you can do it.
Best of Luck whatever you choose : )
2006-12-13 13:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by yummy_mummy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't. It sounds like you want another baby for the wrong reasons. You shouldn't have a baby because you didn't like your previous pregnancies, or because you always wanted 3 kids, or because you are scared. A baby should be wanted because you are able, willing, and have the desire to care and provide for another human being. We all want to go back and repair mistakes we've made, but having another baby won't turn back time for you. For now appreciate the beautiful children that you do have and take the best care of them that you can. Maybe later on you will be ready for another baby.
2006-12-13 13:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you answered your question already. I say count your blessings now and don't press your luck with another child. You have kids already so let someone else add to the population since they will anyway. Think of it as a proactive, respectful, and preventative measure to save the world from over population by using birth control! Besides, isn't it time to have a little fun in life with out worrying about all the things you mentioned in your question? We don't live forever ya know.
2006-12-13 13:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by krisjohn8 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
everything will always work out no matter what happens and even if you were worse then you are no look at your last two you survived and now you are better off who babysits now for your other two when they are not at school you can think of daycare i wouldnt put my son in daycare but its just a thought maybe you should wait just a couple more years and save up for just in cases but just remember people say wait until you are financially set well in all actuality no one is acually "financially set" if you get a pay increase then your living standerds go up so if you are ready i say go for it other wise just save for a couple more years then have one good luck
2006-12-13 13:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR HEART..BUT THINK ABOUT THE WORLD TODAY, DO WE REALLY WANT TO BRING A CHILD INTO THIS..ONE MINUTE WE SUCCESSFULLY WORKING THE NEXT JOBS ARE LAYING OFF..THE WARS AND ETC...I WANT ANOTHER KID SO BAD I HAVE A 7 YEAR LD SON WHO'S ASKING FOR A SIBLING BUT IM TOO AFRAID I PRAY VERY NIGHT FOR A BETTER PLACE OUR CHILDREN DONT HAVE TO FEAR..BUT I DO WANT TO WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD IF YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND DECIDE TO HAVE A BUNDLE OF JOY
2006-12-13 15:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by T-MAC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋