She just had our baby like 2 days ago and all she really seems to be doing is sleeping and taking care of her. It's so boring cuz she pays no attention to me anymore. All i can really do for her is change diapers(which im never doing cuz its nasty) cuz she breastfeeds so there goes feeding the baby.
2006-12-13 13:27:25 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Your wife just had a baby. Cut her some slack, You didn't give birth, you didn't feel the pain. That is being selfish saying that shes not paying attention to you. Your newborn needs the attention at the moment. Do all you can to help her. Your a father now its time to wake up to your responsibilities. And changing nappies is one of them. Are you an adult or a child because your acting like a child. Your wife needs you so be there for her.
2006-12-13 13:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, well, this is life now babe... It's only been 2 days. Let your wife rest she's still tired from giving birth, things will get better, I promise!! Since you can't feed the baby (and really, that's all the baby wants to do right now is nurse and sleep and nurse and sleep) you need to man up and start helping change diapers!! Come on, you're a grown man now, you're a father, you can handle a poopy diaper, don't be a wimp ;) Do supportive things for you wife like getting her a drink of water, an extra pillow, or answering the phone. In another month, this will all look VERY different and it'll get much easier.
But listen to me - START CHANGING THOSE DIAPERS!
2006-12-13 21:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by SaraBMW 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to help her more and maybe she will have more energy for you... How would you feel if you just pushed a watermelon out of you hole... Her body is going through alot right now and being tired is her bodys way of healing fast... She is probably under alot of stress with the newborn and it sounds like u are not helping that much... Maybe you should tell her to breast pump and then u could feed the baby while she sleeps... Just be patient and things will back to normal... Be more supportive and stop being such a baby about the diaper changes...Someone had to change your nasty *** when you where a baby...So get over it and think about her right now...but good luck..and congrats
2006-12-13 21:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by happy2BAlive!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my husband. And he can tell you from experiance...it comes with the territory! She just had a baby! Don't you know what kind of toll that takes on a woman? Especially with the breastfeeding. It takes a lot out of you. I slept in the recliner the first few months of my son's life because I was too exhausted to get up and go to bed, knowing that he would be crying soon and need me again. I was too exhausted to pay attention to my husband. It gets better though! Once the baby gets older, and his needs diminish a bit, I had more time with my hubby. Give her a break! Change some diapers! They wont hurt you! You helped make the baby. Take some responsibilty.
2006-12-13 21:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by Koozie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhh she should be sleeping and taking care of the baby. She just gave birth 2 days ago. She's tired. Cut the lady some slack and learn to change a diaper you're a father now and it's part of the job.
2006-12-13 21:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You donated your sperm and are no longer important. Do you think she cares a bit about you when she has a new baby to take care of? Especially if you are even the slightest bit of the level of asshole that your question indicates. How about grow up! Your a "dad" now. Be helpful and maybe she will pay attention to you. Continue being an *** and hopefully she will kick you out.
2006-12-13 21:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by hes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so rude-you need to grow up.Your poor wife just had a baby and is exhausted and you expect tons of attention!Believe me I know from experience how tired a woman is after having a baby.I was tired the whole month after and my hubby never complained and was nothing but helpful-including changing out sons diapers.
You need to respect her!
2006-12-13 21:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in her place mate!!! She has just completed an amazing feat!! She created your child, all by herself!! Well apart from your help in the very beginning! HaHa. For 9 or 10 months now, her body's main mission was to provide for the precious soul growing inside. Now bubba is out and she is recovering from the effects of birth, pregnacy, and adjusting to breastfeeding. Its a very difficult time, i neglected my husband a bit in the beginning too. The main way to get through this tiring exciting emotional time is to keep communicating!! Be gentle with each other, don't snap, and dont expect too much of your girl. but talk to her about how your feeling and ask her if she has any concerns. You will get through it, and come out the other side in a couple of months with a stronger relationship than ever!!
Best wishes
Dont forget to look after yourself too!!
2006-12-13 21:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by niki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope she leaves you!
that is what she is supose to do. and you are supose to be the one helping.............. especilally stuff like changing diapers.
that is why dads take off work a couple of weeks too now.
her body has to heal from having a baby... she is going to be tired from getting up every so often to take care of the babies needs such as breastfeeding.
you should clean the house and cook for her make her life easy! help her........................
those every 2 hour naps are the only chance for sleep in a day she has... and if shes lucky she can get a total of 6 hours of sleep a day..........
lay off of her!
2006-12-14 10:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by steveangela1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby needs more attention then you, besides that you should be involved with doing as much as you can for your baby time will pass and eventually you will have a little more time in your hands to spend time together.
2006-12-13 21:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jadyn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋