We are in the middle of a nasty divorce and custody battle and I feel that my ex-husband is trying to hurt both of us and ruin Christmas.
2006-12-13 13:23:25 · 21 answers · asked by PATRICIA O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would tell him that it is ok to still believe in Santa. Let him know that Santa is a feeling of Christmas that no one can take away from him. Shame on your ex for being like this....doesn't he realize that he is only hurting his child? I don't understand why someone would want to do that yet fight for custody...he obviously does not have your son's best interest at heart!
2006-12-13 13:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that his father doesnt know what hes talking about.. tell him that there is a santa and he will be coming down the chimney on christmas to bring him toys for being so good all year. Tell him that his father is upset because he has been naughty and wont be paying a visit to dad, and he felt he wanted to tell him there was no santa. Let him go visit santa at the mall and take a pic and tell him what he wants for christmas it will make him happy. Also let him know to not listen to his dad when he tells him there is no santa. GOod luck sweetie
2006-12-13 13:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patricia...
First read the Christmas story and get a smal manger and let him help set it up. then get a couple of Christmas cartoons with Santa in them...Celebrate the season with him...go to a park where someone is dressed up like a mouse or a dog...and tell him that Santa Claus is a cartoon character. Next time your ex comes to the house to see him...kick him right where it hurts...ask him if it is real or not...
2006-12-13 13:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stop raging about his dad. Its quite possible that for whatever reason, he'd had doubts, and asked his dad. You're not doing yourself favours assuming the worst.
Second, the cat is out of the bag on this one. So you need to go the 'whole mile' with the post-santa chat. The above post was fantastic. You need to tell him about the spirit of santa, about how he is now old enough to be a part of creating that magic for kids. That its not a big mean lie. That its something wonderful and magical for kids that brings a little bit of wonder to the grown ups who get to take part in it.
2006-12-14 03:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to tell your son that Santa is real he will even be more mad at you when he finds out the truth so I would leave it at that he knows Santa isn't real now. You could explain to him how Christmas is so much more than what Santa was to him.
2006-12-13 13:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by gcrowders 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should explain how Santa is not real. In the fact that a fat man in a red suit does not fly around the world in one night giving presents, but how the spirt of giving which is what Santa Claus represnts is very much real.
When you see people donating to the salvation army bell ringers, or the toy for tots bins that is the spirit of giving that is Santa. Anyone who has ever dontated money, toys or adopted a family that was going through a diffucult time is Santa Claus themselves in a way.
2006-12-13 13:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by Just curious 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A 7 year old looks up to his parents. He'll believe ANYTHING you tell him for the most part. Seeing is believing. Take him to go see Santa at the mall. Stress the importance of giving and being thankful this time of year.
2006-12-13 13:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by WENDY R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your 7 year old son that you and his daddy are having problems right now and it is not his fault and that Santa does exist. Let him know that mommy and daddy are just upset with each other and you are sorry he is being told theses things. Best wishes--sorry this is happening to your sweet little boy.
2006-12-13 13:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, I'm sorry!!! It wasn't right of him to tell him, but now you have to deal with it. 7 is the age where most kids figure it out anyways. Once they are in school, it's all over. ( i really miss those yrs!!!) talk to you're son, be honest!!! If you lie to him know , he will question you're honesty later. Let him know,Santa lives in our heart. He is st.nick ( read up on it if you don't know the story of st. nick) and we as parents are doing our part to keep his spirt of christmas alive. (watch miracle on 34th street again :) good luck and merry christmas!!!!
2006-12-13 13:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by dreamteam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband should be beaten....that would be my present from Santa...
As for your son...tell him that everyone has a right to believe in Santa or not to believe...the reason his daddy doesnt believe is because Santa never came to his house because he was a bad boy...then go into the naughty or nice bit...
2006-12-13 13:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by I'm Gumby Damnit! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋