Im Christian and my boyfriend is Hindu. We are on the edge of marriage and I am wondering how we will raise the children. He has no preference and wants them to make their own decision. I'm unsure. Help!
2006-12-13 13:13:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
AS OTHER COUPLES ARE DOING THERE IS NO ANY SPECIAL IF YOU MARRIED IN OTHER RELIGION.
2006-12-13 15:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Religion is very important, so that will cause some conflict with each of your families, no doubt about it. But marriage is either a rollercoast or a merry-go-round. Which ride do you prefer?
If you want to live a quiet life without conflict, you'll find that it's a conflict just to live quietly. Trust me. I know.
Choose the Rollercoaster.
2006-12-13 21:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dad's cousin is christian and she married a hindu. they had 3 kids, and brought them up going to church and everything. but by the time the kids were older i think they became really confused with religion and eventually all of the kids basically adopted no religion at all. one of the 3 kids turned out fine, but the other 2 have been doing drugs and having sex and seem really confused about the values that christianity and hinduism teach, and i feel very bad for them.
that's just my personal story, and i hope it will be different with you and boyfriend.
2006-12-13 21:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be good if you go with two kids. So each kid can raised in both ways, as a Christian and a Hindu.
But best decision would be either one of you converting to other religion. Off course whenever you or your boyfriend wanted can visit their church or temple but as far as the kid is concerned, kid would mainly be focused on only one religion.
2006-12-13 21:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is ask him if he would change faith to yours. If you were getting married because a child was expected, the Christian thing to do is be the best wife you can be, go to your church, and also to his temple. Do NOT criticise his faith! And do NOT argue that you are right, and he is wrong! If you read the Bible, he will respect that to be a Christian is a matter of the heart, and that in all sincerity, you love him in spite of your differences. He will learn from your actions toward other people, and he will see you tenderness toward others.
2006-12-13 21:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by persnicady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important for a child to thoroughly understand their country's dominant religion because it is part of the national identity. They can relate better to their peers and there is less of a chance of them felling like an outsider. But teach them about the other religion. Then when they are old enough they can chose for themselves.
2006-12-13 23:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u marry u two would be the best example of religious oneness.This world needs people like who do not believe in religious difference and only in true love and humanity.Thanks for igniting a spark of oneness.
2006-12-13 22:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Neo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise is the key...i believe u should convert one day couse its not right ur children be raised without a religion...they will make their own decision,im sure but at what age?18?its kind of late!!!
2006-12-14 17:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of you either converts to the others religion or you raise you kids as agnostic.
A christian knows that the only way to heaven is through Jesus Christ. Do you want your kids raised in a religion that to your beliefs would condemn them to hell?
2006-12-13 21:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Expose the children to both philosophies (don't force) and they will love both. I'm a product of such a union and quite normal. YOU and your husband raise the children, not the grandparents.
2006-12-13 22:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by gbrownhunter@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never take 'Religion' as a subject to talk about...attend each others festivals as if its your own...let the children choose for them selves.
Don't make it a huge problem.
Changing religion wouldn't work for you.
But as far as i know children with parents from different religions can be in a bit of a confusion. i'm Buddhist, my parents say not to marry anyone who's not.
Marrying him or not is for you to decide
2006-12-13 21:29:11 · answer #11 · answered by imi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋