self esteem?

Question

I absoulty know that I am very beautiful. But my in my heart do I feel like I'm nothing, i walk with my head down and so hard on myself i don't understand where this is coming from i'm see a psycologist but i just started. I wasn't nothing like this in high school where can i go to find information or even advice I feel so depressed :( yes i am on medication but its still not working for my self esteem.

Answer 1

If you know you are beautiful Why do you feel like nothing? Start out with your head held high. ASk yourself when this started happening? What caused you to think this way? You said you werent like this in HS. So what happened between then and now. Self esteem comes within.And sounds like you think you are worthless. But why that worthless feeling. If you are attractive, have a good personality and get along with people why that long face on that beautiful face? My advise is to get off those pills and look to your inner self. Get out and enjoy yourself.Always look up and you will find yourself. Do you date? Have loads of friends? Are u overweight? Can you do something to your body that will make you have more confidence in your self? Lots of questions you need to ask yourself. Wish i could help you more. But sounds like you know the answer yourself. Best of luck to you sweetie. God will answer those questions for you. Just ask and you will receive.

Answer 2

The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren (see link below) is a really good place to start. It helped me. Right now it sounds like your beauty is only acknowledged in your head (head knowledge) and it needs to be resonating deeper than that (heart knowledge).

When we only hold a 'truth' in our heads it is kind of flimsy- all we need is a snide remark or a funny look, or a bad appraisal at work or a rejection for a date for us to hold that 'truth' in question. Our heads work on logic and the thing about logic is it's ruled by reason and we're fantastically well-skilled at proving/disproving things. We live in a culture where 'truths' are constantly being contested- we analyse everything and argue it out to the point where we can justify (reason out) just about anything. e.g. "It's OK if he wants to keep the relationship open, I know he's just afraid of commitment but once he realises how special I am he'll start to trust me and feel safe with me and then he'll stop sleeping with other women and commit to our relationship and then we'll live happily ever after"- it sounds a little bit crazy but we do do things like this A LOT because we're suffering from low self esteem (a false impression of ourselves) so we logic-alise, justify and reason out this kind of behaviour because our false impressions make us believe we need to. That's a lie. But anyway realising that is a good place to start (and also realising that you're not the only one who reasons out in this way helps to relieve some of the pressure you can put on yourself).

What I found in The Purpose Driven Life was a great blue print for the process of my true self realisation, the first few chapters are where it's all at (but it continues throughout the book). It helped me to believe without a shadow of a doubt that my beauty, my treasured-ness, my lovability, my value is ABSOLUTE- it's not opinion, it's not based on a passing fad or somebody's appraisal of me or any other flimsy thing it's based on an absolute fundamental truth which is that I was created to love and be loved and the mere fact that I am living and breathing is proof of that fact. I wouldn't be here if I weren't loved (and that's not necessarily from your family).

I suffered with low self esteem for much of my teenage years- it got worse once I left home and moved to a new part of the country (I guess because the 'truths' I had based my life on before were no longer there around me, reflecting upon me and affirming me (do you get this? sorry it's a bit vague!) ) But after an (ongoing) period of self discovery- in which reading this book played a significant part- I now know that I know that I know that I know I'm absolutely smashing (!!!!) and absolutely NOTHING could make me question that again. I hope this helps... :-)

Answer 3

A customer of mine was a doctor and he said that the world would be a better place if people put as much into their education as they put into how they look. And the best help I was told about for depression was that depression was a chemical imbalance in which the mind focuses on some thing or some one in order to justify. Whew!! did that change my perspective and get a load off my shoulders. A self esteem trick... fake it until you make it Quit telling yourself bad things. God isn't finished with you yet. I found better help in group therapy because it was a faster pace and you learn from their experiences instead of waiting for yourself to come up with a solution after years of telling your shrink about your past.

Answer 4

First thing is to get off the medication.

Second thing is to stop seeing the Psychologist.

Third thing is to understand for yourself who and what you are. Stick by your decisions about yourself and don't let anyone compromise your belief in yourself. This feeling of lowered self-esteem - believing you are nothing - is just an accumulation of others having told you what to think about yourself or how to act. You've bought into it and it is compromised your personal integrity. The bottom line is: if you don't have your own personal integrity, then you have little else.

So, remember who you are and stick by your principles. If someone wants to evaluate for you or try tell you about yourself, weigh it against what you believe and if its different to what you know, ignore it.

Answer 5

ok. u know you're very beautiful. You know who else does? Jesus. whatever your troubles are, tell him. he understands. I did this yesterday night and it worked. I feel a whole lot better. Cry to Him. like I said, He understands. He's like your'e best friend. all thos psycologists and medications don't help but I know Jesus does. So, cry laugh dance, pray 2 Jesus about all your self esteem troubles. He understands.

Answer 6

Self-esteem is tough to rebuild if it is low. However, its completely possible. I'm definitely living proof; I've been through the counseling, the meds, the friends coming and going, etc. etc.

There's a audiobook set by Brian Tracy that I highly recommend.

If you like, email me and I will see about getting it to you somehow. It's really helpful, motivational, and inspirational.

Answer 7

firstly you need to stop that so called "medication" because self esteem comes within.

Secondly knowing you are beautiful is a start

you are no different than anyone else, you are what you make of your self. Stop being hard on yourself forget about negative thoughts that wont help you because it makes you feel worse.
i hope this helps

Answer 8

firstly you need to take a big lok at yourself in the mirror and repeat that you are beautiful.
They say which is true, it worked for me,) excersie will releases endorphines, which makes you happy, not to mention fit and healthy. So I would say on those days that your feeling really down about yourself, go for a long work/jog, run a hot bath and then pamper yourself. Hope it helps!

Answer 9

Carl Jung said that all children suffer from an inferiority complex (makes sense, grown ups are always telling them that they're inferior), but as they grow older they naturally overcome this complex by mimicking the older people who are superior and building a new sense of confidence. However, if these children suffer a traumatic experience as they grow up, they are unable to overcome these feelings of inferiority and carry them into adulthood.

Answer 10

find out if somethign is missing in your life... and than you might go from there.. try to make up for some voids in meaningful ways.. hang with friends and have fun also try to find the guy who will make in the center of his world

good luck and best wishes