so yesterday my boyfriend said to me that he really loved me and that hes not sure if one day im just going to up and leave him. It turns out that his last girlfriend left him for another guy. I feel like he doesnt trust me. I really like him, and i dont know how to get it across that im not going anywhere. What should i do?
2006-12-13 12:48:21 · 6 answers · asked by steffo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's not unusual. He is obviously very insecure. Tell him you love him and show him that you're not like his ex. Affection goes a long way in relationships. You can sit down and have a talk wit him. Let him know where you stand and assure him that leaving him is the last time on your mind. Money doesn't buy love, so maybe get him a card or make one and express how you feel if you aren't ready to verbally communicate your thoughts quite yet. My boyfriend likes it when i make him a card or something. poetry is always cute. doesn't have to be all emotional and mushy, but the point is, you show him u care.
2006-12-13 12:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You SAY it is a song he actually wrote to his ex girlfreind? How talented he is. Maybe he likes the song. Is it any good. Perhaps you should compliment him on the song and his talents if the song is any good at all. maybe he will write one for you. I think that is super. i can understand your concern about it, but the song isn't the girl. If he were keeping love letters that is another thing. You are getting too uptight about something that showcases his talent. Did you know that many big song writers have songs they wrote to old girlfriends or just friends? they get played all over the place and when they do, they get a commission. I don't think their girls get that upset about that song being out there when the old girl doesn't mean much to them anymore. She may have been his muse at the time, but that is over. So long as he is not going around her, you need to get off his back about the song. Have you ever heard it in music? If it is good, encourage him to send it to someplace where it might be published. People need good songs. Old songs like peggy Sue probably didn't have Peggy Sue and the singer or the writer being married but it was for a time. That time is over but the song may be worth more than the relationship. And it is part of him, not of her. Accept his talent and encourage him to write more. Doesn't have to be about you even, but could be his sister or his Mom or just his feelings. That song shouldn't be something that splits you up, but something that you can appreciate as one of his talents and encourage him to increase his talents. Don't be feeling inadequate about that song. You are feeling insecure and shouldn't. After all, you have the guy -- appreciate that or you will end up chasing him away and you may not even have a song. Wake up.
2016-05-23 22:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful here! Many guys that are distrustful to start with have sever control issues that can turn violent. If it's truly just a question of distrust you shouldn't have to pay for an exes sins. If he really loved you, he would trust you if you've given him no reason to distrust you. Keep your eyes and ears open here! Think with your head and not your heart where his trust is concerned!
Everyone whose had a boyfriend or a girlfriend has had their hearts broken, but not all keep the baggage forever.
2006-12-13 12:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by ReBelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force him to trust you, he'll always have those lingering doubts as I imagine you have some doubts as well. Don't dwell on it too much. All you can do is stay by his side and hope for the best.
2006-12-13 12:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by clover spots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont b too sure yet. Im sure there are many men out there better than him. If oneday u find a man better than him, Im sure u'd dump him too
2006-12-13 12:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him
2006-12-13 12:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋