My boyfriend has just started a new job and always comments on how his colleagues constantly make fun and are unusually harsh to him. He pretends it doesnt bother him but i can tell its getting him quite down. Hes always had alot of respect from his family and friends so i guess hes not used to it. Any tips that dont involve violence and just telling them where to go, cos the first would cost his job and the second has been tried. Like at school they'd tell you to just ignore it but in a mature work place, there should be something he can do?
2006-12-13 12:32:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
take note of everything they do times dates then go to solicitor
get money out of them then pay a guy a to make sure they'll never bully again
simple
2006-12-14 01:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by leafyselby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trick is to be better at your job than bullies, get higher and earn more. Unfortunately there isn't much more to offer, unless it gets to serious harrasment there is very little the compnay can do. Just out of interest is your boyfriend working in a skilled adult environment (are most of his colleagues over 30?) or is he working in a young persons job (take out, call centre etc) with a bunch off teenagers and early 20s. If it's the latter he should just walk and find something that suits him better, if it's the former he'll just have to grin and bear it and get on with his job!
2006-12-13 17:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Skippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some great books written on adult bullying in the work place. Go to amazon, and type in adult bullying.
There is an art to standing up to people like this, especially in the work place. He just needs to be strong and realize that his responses may not come out perfectly at first, but eventually he will have gained the knowledge to stand up to anyone under any circumstances. For instance, humorous comebacks can have a great effect and positive influence.
Good luck!
2006-12-14 07:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest - I've not experienced it - but I know such behaviour would gradually wear me down. Its not on to be honest. I can see for some people it would affect them worse.
He's doing the right thing for now... rising above it though. Often like school, it could get worse if you show its annoying you. However it has to stop and he needs to find a way to make that happen. Its so difficult though and perhaps different ways in all types of work environments. He shouldn't have to put up with this though. Good luck.
2006-12-13 12:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by Narky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he likes the job, then first off he should join a union. They will offer him all the support he needs and they will do the approaching, etc, so it takes it out of his hands. Secondly, he should speak to someone in HR, and get a copy of the organisation's Bullying and Harrassment policy. Thirdly, get on the ACAS website, which has lots of useful information on employment law, and people's rights. Finally, if he feels brave enough, he should speak to people individually, and tell them how they are making him feel. Approached as a group they will find it easy to laugh off, but very often, if people are spoken to quietly, it has a greater effect. Also, people often don't realise how damaging their remarks are, and its good to let them know! Wish him good luck.
2006-12-13 21:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Queen of the Night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line - he needs to get a new job - even if he lodges a complaint (which is well within his right) with HR, the backlash can be worse. Sometimes it's better to just cut your losses and move on to a healthier environment. I wish him luck.
2006-12-13 12:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by tasha2girl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His employer has a responsibility to protect him in the workplace. He has three options:
1. Address his concerns with his supervisor, and if that fails, go up the ladder.
2. Contact human resources and speak to them about his concerns.
3. Many companies have anonymous help lines that can be contacted about problems such as his.
Good luck!
2006-12-13 12:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
He should update his resume and begin looking for a new job.
Employee's behavior trickles down from the boss - once it's set up that way rarely does it improve.
Also most denisions of corporate America are jealous of those who are raised to be polite with good principle and confidence.
2006-12-13 12:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Get him to tell his collegues how down it making him.
If it carries on he should to the his Manager and/or the Personel Department and let them take it further if needs be.
2006-12-13 20:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by k 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should join the banter if any takes the mick out of him he should take the mickey back. This way he will be part of the gang if he stays quiet people will just take advantage of him.
2006-12-13 19:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by By Any Means Necessary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋