13 and Pregnent?

Question

Im 5 weeks pregnent and I am 13 what should I do. I know that this one guy is the father cause I had sex before but not since 7th grade, so it could'nt be any of the other guys.
My mom was 16 when she had me so I don't know if she would be mad or not.
Pleese help.

Answer 1

Whoa! What were you thinking when having sex at such a young age. I mean, at that time you dont even know how to enjoy sex right. I guess you should tell her. Might as well do it now, even if she gets mad, but sooner or later your belly is gonna be seen by everyone. Be the bigger person and tell her what happened.

Answer 2

Are you positive that you are pregnant? Have you taken a pregnancy test? Unless you have taken a pregnancy test it is hard to tell if you are pregnant or not. If you are sure, here is what you need to do:
1. Tell your mom. Even if she does get mad about it, it won't be as bad as her finding out herself when you start to show. Even if it's hard to do, do it anyway because it will be much worse if you wait.
2. DO NOT get an abortion! Just because you made a mistake, that does not mean that this baby should have to die. There are hundreds of people that would love to adopt your baby, and would give it a wonderful life. If you get an abortion, not only will you be killing an innocent baby, you will have to live with the guilt from that for the rest of your life.
3. Make sure you go to a doctor soon. It can be difficult for a 13 year old to have a baby, so make sure you have the proper medical care. You don't want anything to happen to you or your baby.
4. Don't let this ruin your life. Yes, you did something wrong and you need to ask forgiveness, but this does not mean that you are a worthless person. You are still a precious gem to God, and even though He is saddened by what you have done, He still loves you and wants to forgive you. Don't let yourself get depressed about this - pray and ask God for the strength to get you through this.
5. Although it may seem fun now, having sex before you are married takes the joy away from it on your wedding night. It may be hard to say no sometimes, but pray and ask for strength to say no next time. Wait until you are married before you have sex again. It will save you a lot of pain and heartache.

I will be praying for you!

Answer 3

There are a lot of potential answers that could be to this question. I am not sure if you are planning on keeping it or if you have gotten that far yet, but I would say the first thing to do is go to the Health Department and make sure that you get some prenatal vitamins and all the tests that they need to give you. Considering your age you will be considered high risk, so you want to make sure that you make regular doctor appointments. Your mom is going to be upset with you. If she had you when she was 16 then she knows all too well how hard this could be on you, but I think that you need to sit her down and tell her. Parents learn to deal with things whether they like it or not for the love of their children....you will be learning that lesson in the next 9 months. Good luck honey!

Answer 4

Hopefully your mom will be understanding since she was young when she had you. I am sure at first she might seem mad/sad whatever, it will just be a shock thing.

I had a son when I was 13 for people that say you can't take care of a child when you are 13 on your own they don't know because they haven't been there. I took care of my son on my own and got my own apartment when I was 15. Babysitting is a great way to get money and bring your child along with you. Chances are since your mom was young when she ahd you she might be willing to help you out.

You realllllllly need to tell your mom though, so you can get into the doctors office and have everything checked out and so on.

If you want/need to talk email me..

Answer 5

Wow!! You are so young and fragile to have to be considering this, my heart goes out to you. You need to go to planned parenthood if you can't tell your mom, they can give you the best advice and help guide you to the right decision. If you do decide to keep this baby I hope that you can do a better job of raising it and help to stop the cycle of teenage pregnancy in your family. You need some education. Again, my heart breaks for you. I had a very unplanned baby at 21 and in my opinion that was way too young and it completely changed the direction of my life. Even though I kept the baby and have a "normal" life now I don't think I will ever forgive myself for being so careless with my precious life. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sweetie, I was 21 when I got pregnant with my daughter...away at college...living with my boyfriend...my parents knew nothing. They thought I was living on campus..it took me until I was almost 6 months pregnant before they found out...and they asked me...I thought they were going to die, thats why I didnt tell them but the truth is they were SO supportive. It will be the hardest thing you ever do, telling your mom, but you need her. You are going through so much right now you need someone to help you make a logical adult decision. No matter what you do, you do it for you and not the people on here who think that abortion is bad. You are 13 and if someone wants to adopt a baby they can adopt another one, you are a 13 yr old, not a baby machine. If you need anything email me...I had an abortion once too, it is hard, but might be the right thing for you. I will be thinking about you...let me know if you need anything!

Answer 7

Talk to your mother and expect her to be disappointed and very mad. Mothers would love it if their children didn't repeat their mistakes, so be smart and don't use her actions as reasons for your own. Bottom line is you are way too young to be a parent, and whether or not you've had sex since the 7th grade is irrelevant. You've played and now you have another life that you need to be responsible for. Talking to your mother is the first part of that responsibility. The 2nd part is getting to a doctor immediately and taking care of yourself. Third part of that responsibility is involving the father, but your mother will probably take care of that. The final responsibility you have is to determine you are too young, inexperienced and immature to have a child. You have a major decision to make and you better make it soon. Then you need to get counseling and figure out why you needed to have unprotected sex that has now resulted in a pregnancy.

Good luck and I'll say my prayers for your child. She's going to need them.

Answer 8

i feel for you here you must be feeling so scared and lost and very worried right now especially with what is going on with your body right now i am a little surprised your having sex at a young age but number one if you are not being forced into it then it is up to you i got pregnant at 16 was booked into an abortion clinic the night before i broke down and told my mum what was going on she was great totally different to how i thought disappointed to start with but after a day she was great and we have an incredible bond now so your mom may be a bit worried upset annoyed to start with but she is your mom and loves you unconditionally good luck and all the best to you both keep well.

Answer 9

youre 13, either way you have no choice to tell your mom that youre pregnant. the doctors wont give you an abortion without your parents permission because youre that young and by the time you hit 10 weeks your belly is going to start growing and you wont be able to hide it. if you plan on having an abortion, it has to be done by the time youre 13 weeks other wise it could be very dangerous for you. plus, most doctors dont do it after 10 weeks.
if you decide to keep the baby, your life as you know it is over. its not going to easy. the baby is going to cry all the time and you will barely ever sleep. you wont be able to go to the mall and chill with your friends, or go to the movies with a boy. you wont be a kid anymore, youll have all the responsibilities of an adult.
it sucks that youre in this position at such a young age. i hope you learn from your mistakes.

Answer 10

At 13 years old your body is not at its best to carry a baby. That means that you should let your mom know as soon as possible, so that you can start taking prenatal vitamins, and going to the doctor. It will not be easy, and yes your mom will probably be furious, and then sad, and then she'll calm down enough to help you. At least I hope she will. The sooner you tell her the better, both for you and the baby. You should go to a counselor together to decide what is best. I only hope that you don't have an abortion, sometimes that just makes things worse for you when you grow up and finally are ready to have kids. Adoption is an option that you can talk about, or who knows? Maybe your mom will take on raising her grandchild. But for sure talk to your mom asap. As for the father of the child...he had sex also, so he is just as responsible for this pregnancy as you are. Don't forget that. I wish you well. God loves you.

Answer 11

It isn't going to matter whether your 13 or not. The thing is your under 18, not a legal adult. So whether you tell your mom or later she's going to react no matter what. If your mom had you at sixteen I doubt she will be mad, she might be disappointed though. Most parents don't want their children to make the same mistakes they made. Best of luck to you.