I really want to know this, as the number of divorces are on the increase...
2006-12-13 12:00:35 · 20 answers · asked by tigress_taz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suppose it depends on how seriously they view marriage and divorce, and how each divorce affects them.
I have been divorced twice and am now married for the third time. I can't see this marriage ending in divorce, but if it did i doubt if i would remarry. I am too old to have any more children, and i am more or less independant financially so i doubt if i would want to be tied up in matrimony!
At this moment in time, my marriage works, but often in later years women end up looking after a grumpy old man, and the thought is not very appealing!
2006-12-13 18:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Faith's answer hits the nail on the head for me, because I am one of those women lumbered with a grumpy old man. I know it can't, indeed won't, last. Research has shown that as women get into their 40's, 50's and 60's their zest for life is revived, whilst older men are getting into pipe and slippers mode (aka fat, lazy and grumpy!) A mismatch which might explain some of the divorces from later marriages.
I am the triumph of hope, or should it be stupidity, over experience in that this is not my first marriage. But, personally I know I am not going to get married again. When I do move out to live on my own (and that for me is the acid test - when life on my own looked more attractive than my life with him, I knew it was over), I do not intend to live 24/7 with anyone again. I'm not financially independant, so it's going to be very tough, especially as I have spent most of my working life supporting my partner/s and consequently don't have very much I can call my own. Now I'm in my 50's, with very little earning potential, I guess the question of another life partner is academic because I'm probably no longer an attractive proposition!
2006-12-13 21:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by fallen angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very personal decision. Some people decide not to remarry after their first divorce. Other remarry 5 or more times.
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2016-02-11 18:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number of divorces is on the increase because unlike our grandparents, we won;t stay in an unhappy relationship just because we're married. We just get divorced and move on. Too many people rush into marriage imo.
2006-12-13 12:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-13 12:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by vwcarman2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would probably depend on the person, and their state of mind at the time. Personally I went from never again, to getting married, in about four years.
2006-12-13 12:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person.
For some people 1 divorce is quite enough and for other people they keep doing it until they get it right.
2006-12-13 12:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jan Lemming had 5
2006-12-13 19:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by yahooisawastofspaceremoveme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married for the third time. If this one does not work then I will never marry again. Of course, I said that after my second marriage failed.
2006-12-13 12:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋