I'm a teenager and I've been a loner/introvert all my life... in the past I experimented with different social cliques/friends, styles, interests, etc...I was kinda fake and superficial...I tried to pretending to be extroverted and popular...back then I was really unhappy and I was depressed. But now this year I think I've find the real my and I'm happy with my life. I do extra curicular and I talk when I want to,I have friends but I don't hang out with them out of school, I like to do work alone/indpendently...Pretty much I'm happy being alone/indpendent...instead of what I did in the past. I'm pretty close with my mom and my family members (but not my extended). Well the main question is I heard that being a loner leads to lower immunity and high stress levels...leading to a shorter life span. I'm wayyyy more happy now alone then in the past with superficial relationships. So is it healthy to be a loner/introvert? Or should I change?
2006-12-13 11:56:13 · 12 answers · asked by Unknown 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm not sure where you heard that being a loner results in a shorter life span. Aside from that, I think it's ok to enjoy being alone. As long as you have people that you can go to when in need....in need of a hug, to talk, or whatever. Relationships are an important part of living. They teach you wh you are and help you discover who you want to be. As long as you have some balance, enjoy your alone time. It's not something you should feel guilty about.
2006-12-13 12:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! If you say you found yourself, then you are there! Don't change again! The only reason they say that it's bad to be a loner is for people whomight be suffering from depression or some other mental illness and it could be a symptom of it. But those people dont really like to be alone. Do you know how many people spend a HUGE part of their lives looking for what you have? Some people don't get it until they are elderly, and some never get it at all! I say you are very healthy...instead of worrying about it, rejoice in it! Most people today are so unhappy with themselves, that is the cause of most of their problems. Now that you are happy with yourself, the possibilities are ENDLESS!!! DON'T CHANGE! : ) (only if you want to)
2006-12-13 12:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you should not change, if you are happy with yourself and you enjoy family that is enough. Stress kills and lowers the immune system and stress is caused by other people and lots of activities. As long as you are doing well in your learning, your social skills are good and you aren't a complete recluse, you are better off than most. Don't worry abot the nay sayers. People always have something to say about everything. Be true to who you are and what you know is right in your heart, that makes you who you are,not the people you are with. Love coming your way.
2006-12-13 12:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is who you are, run with it. But the fact that you question it leads me to wonder if you're being truly honest with yourself. But either way, what you discribed is nowhere near the extremes that are unhealthy. You talk, which many consider socializing. you have friends, hard to have when you cannot socialize. Being fake is what will probably hurt you in the end, so like I said, run with it. It's actually good if the quality of one friendship matters more than the quantity of other friendships. It's perfectly healthy if it makes you happy *though one can argue not all things that make you happy are healthy, such as drugs or self harm* But if you're happy and healthy in your current lifestyle, there's no need to change. But socializing more will make aquireing jobs easier in the future, so you might want to consider that aspect of it.
2006-12-13 12:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by mandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be who you are. I know that sounds simplistic, but if you try to go against your nature, you will not be happy.
I feel the way you do by the way, but I occasionally like to go out an spend time with friends. I couldn't live with anyone though.
I don't think it's unhealthy at all and I am very happy.
As for low immunity and higher levels of stress, wrong. It is very stressful being around other people if you are an introvert.
I am rarely sick, and hardly ever catch the things that are 'going around'.
2006-12-13 12:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by The Gadfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who is shy/introverted or 'a loner' I don't think this quality is specifically unhealthy. But there are problems that stem from this quality. Sometimes assertiveness can be an issue. Other times lack of social support can be an issue. But you said you speak up when you have to and you have people you talk to. I don't see a problem. Enjoy life and don't worry unless it's useful!
2006-12-13 12:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am no professional however it sounds like you have your priorities in line and are doing very well I might add. You have tried and gotten a taste of just how fake people can be and how fake you DO NOT WANT TO BE... Having come to that realization in my opinion means that you want quality over quantity... I happen to be the same way, and for the most part it has served me very well.
We grow from every person who enters our lives even the negative, so always make sure to remember to give people a fair chance before you blow them off, as not someone worthy of your time.... And learn to listen to those who you consider letting into your heart......... CLOSELY.... Stay healthy by getting lots of exercise, which it a great way to help your mind stay clear to process all that life throws our way...
I think you will do just fine...... Very best wishes! ♥
2006-12-13 12:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An introvert is better than an extravert according to the guy that came up with the words, carl jung. He thought so because they self-contemplate, and the world they live in which leads to enlightenment. My own advice is work on your fear of people, look them in the eye and be around them regularly. Contribute to a better world, and use your position of an outsider to expose the truth about people......as a culture.... also you will see that most people do not give much, sometimes it seems like every one is out to hurt you, learn to be a giver,,,,,,we are here to give,,,,remember that..
2006-12-13 12:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT IS FABULOUS BEING AND INTROVERT!!!
I am one and love every minute of it ! Only if you are unhappy being what you are do you need to make a change.
I don't care what people are doing nor do I care what they think of me. I have a life to live and I live it well and with those I CHOOSE to be with. My husband knows of my Independence and has no problem with it or simply accepts it because he is a good man.
I don't think of it as being an introvert... I consider myself to be someone who is happy with herself and confident enough to do things alone! I am not a leader nor a follower... I am l a loner and loving it!
Wear your "loner" label proud !!
*highfive* : )
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2016-10-05 07:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋