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im 22 weeks prego, my belly shows, most people i know know that i am prego, i have been steadly breaking out since my 1st trimester, now i only have like 2 or 3 steady blemishes...people keep saying things along the lines of i wonder why you are pimply? i was never like that!...or the baby is causing you to break out with hives!...or you are still breaking out??...or poor thing the baby is giving you hives!!, or what are you having? i respond a boy., they say that expains why you are breaking out! im to the point where i just want to say F*uck off to these ppl...& its mostly business colegues that are saying this to me, my family knows better...its driving me crazy, what is a comeback that i can say to them when they say these things?? i usually say Aah the joy of pregnancy, or something like that, but now im just so sick & tired of hearing it. Any advise??

2006-12-13 11:53:02 · 23 answers · asked by miss me! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

23 answers

"well at least I can say it's from being pregnant.. what's your excuse?"

or

"that's rude"

2006-12-13 11:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

If it were me, I'd say "Well, I think acne is a pretty mild problem compared to some things that women have to go thru during pregnancy. I'm just glad that my baby boy is healthy and that I don't have any complications. I'd rather have acne any day than gestational diabetes, or something else just as serious." That will give people some perspective. And really, these people aren't trying to be mean....pregnant women are for whatever reason, considered public property on some levels. Everyone has something to say; everyone has their two cents to put in--old ladies, coworkers, even the bag boy at the grocery store. They are just curious and most of them probably don't realize that it's getting on your nerves; and also, the next person doesn't know that ten previous people have said basically the same thing to you. Just have an answer ready, like the one above, or whatever you feel like saying--keep it short and polite--and then smile and move on. You can't tell the whole world to f**k off, but you can choose how you react to it. This is small potatoes. You have more important things to concentrate on; don't let this small thing ruin your joy. Hope this helps; congrats!

2006-12-13 20:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by peachy78 5 · 2 0

If coworkers bring it up more than once, and all you say is "Ah, the joy of pregnancy", they aren't really getting the idea that you don't want to talk about it.

People LOVE to associate symptoms with whether you are having a girl or a boy. They also feel that invasive questions are perfectly all right (as is touching a stranger's belly!). I had people say, "Are you going to deliver vaginally?" "Was the baby planned?"

I think if a coworker asks why you are breaking out you should smile and say, "Yes, I've been REALLY sensitive about it and I'd rather forget them." If it's a stranger, I wouldn't hold back. Say, "I'm not really sure - what causes those blackheads you have?"

2006-12-13 20:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 4 0

Honestly, dont respond with a "comeback", because you are then lowering yourself to their ignorant and uninformed level. Some things don't need to be dignified with a response.

EVERYONE with common sense knows that you do NOT say negative or sarcastic things to pregnant woman, because there is NOTHING you can do about discoloration, acne, stretchmarks etc when you are carrying another human being! All women are unique, so while a minority may escape all the things I just named, the majority experience at least 2 out of etc!

If anything, be honest and just let the next person who talks to you in this way know that you are offended and that in this joyous/meaningful event of your life, you would like to focus less on things beyond your control and focus more on the blessing of the life you are growing from the inside out.

2006-12-13 20:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Albritton 4 · 2 0

People just don't know how to keep their mouths shut...plain and simple. And if it weren't about acne, they would find something else to pick at you about.

Know what I hear?? At the start of like 30 weeks, I started hearing "Oh wow..you must be due really soon!" as if I were bigger than the freakin' moon! I just laugh and say "is it that obvious?"

I guess it depends upon how you want to handle it, really. You could totally come back with something sarcastic, but innocent back on them. Find a flaw in them and use it. If they have teeth that are pretty bad : "You poor thing, too...your parents couldn't afford braces, huh?".

Maybe that is just a little too obvious for something that may be just innocent on them.

Maybe just a comment like, "Oh..the breakouts don't bother me....totally worth it knowing I will have a small precious baby soon!".

Or blow it off. People don't get it.

2006-12-13 19:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by retrowfmk 4 · 3 0

Some people are ignorant to the fact they are not you. Tell them "you, your baby & your changing hormones would appreciate you not comparing them to you." It's a miracle of life that mothers endure. Every pregnancy is different. Some are hard some are easy. All pregnancy is a beautiful & precious thing because it truly is a miracle. Some women can't have kids. Some die trying. Just try to think on good things because hormones cause pregos to be more emotional than most.

2006-12-13 20:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by twinkle toes 2 · 3 0

You have got to be kidding me! What is wrong with these morons? Who would tell a pregnant woman anything like that!?? First of all, ALL women react to pregnancy differently! Some women do break out! I did when I was pregnant with my daughter! They really need help and do not take what they say seriously. I know that's easier said than done, though.

As far as a response to their comments goes... I would just say something short and sweet that will leave them speechless. There's no point saying the truth ("That's none of your business." or "Thanks for taking away my joy.") because obviously they do not have any brains or tact.

Maybe say something like, "Oh, it's just a disease I have. It's contaigous, you'd better watch out." And then walk away.

That will leave them speechless for sure.

Try to not let it bother you. I'm sure you look like you're glowing and if your baby is healthy that's all that matters.

2006-12-13 19:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by ReeberKaseyMarcus 3 · 3 0

Say, "If you pay me more I could get some proactive." lol, not even sure if that's safe during pregnancy. I had the same problem- I don't normally break out, and if I do, it's tiny, but during my pregnancy- I would have 3 bad pimples here and there. You can only cover them up so much, so yes, I feel you on this. I'd get really pissed as well, and tell them to butt out, it happens, we're here for work not talking about who has pimples or not. Goodluck, they will go away. Try to be happy for your baby, and if they bother you so much, think about your baby, rub your belly, and smile. That's what I did when I had people bothering me.

2006-12-13 20:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by m930 5 · 3 0

Some people think that just because you're pregnant, it gives them the right to say anything about your appearance (i.e. weight, blemishes, etc.). They don't realize that you still have feelings and not to mention that you're more sensitive because your hormones are having a party in your body.

I had a really rude woman (who was pregnant and working at a maternity store) say that I was huuuuuuge! Then, she asked me how far along I was when I told her, she responded, "Oh, I think it's because I'm tinier than you!" Talk about rude!!!

I definitely know how you feel. I sometimes feel like smacking some people too, but I just usually walk away while they're still talking to me. I'm sure they get the hint as to how rude they were.

2006-12-13 19:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 3 0

Say, "Thank you!" and smile, but keep it moving don't dwell on the insensitive negative comments. You have so much joy to look forward to. Focus on the future arrival and be happy the pimples are temporary because its a small sacrifice for the blessing of a child. Enjoy your pregnancy it will be over before you know it.

2006-12-13 20:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 2 0

First of all, I'd like to make a blanket apology for all the insensitive, ignorant and rude people who do this to you. You can laugh and say, "I love this baby, but am allergic to pregnant." or "You know, that's an awfully rude thing to say to me." I carried around a cup of water and when I'd get rude remarks disguised as concern, I'd trip on purpose and spill it all over them, then THEY had an imperfect appearance also.

I think pregnant women are beautiful... pimples, hives and all.

2006-12-13 20:10:45 · answer #11 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 2 0

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