how do i get him to stow
his mom is an alcoholic and I think he might be predisposed to it.
he has to be around people that are drinking and almost gets mad if you arent. He is VERY SMART and just graduated
it is a touchy subject and i dont know how to approach it
do i leave it alone?
2006-12-13 11:49:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you don't want to abandon him... but if he is on track with his job... and school... sometimes the best thing you can do is be an example... he will eventually figure out that he either has a problem and seek help or will cut back on his own...
if you are his g/f then you might be able to tell him.. I don't like you when you drink all the time... he may see that as a warning in itself...
either way.. if he doesn't see or want to see that there may be a problem... you should def leave... no reason for his issues to drag down the both of you...
Good Luck
2006-12-13 11:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by teche16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave it alone! Write him a serious letter and explain to him how concerned you are. Guys have a way of blocking us out if we use too many words, so keep it simple. Ask him to go out to a movie with you or the mall window shopping, bowling or some other activity to get away from the routine he's in. Good Luck =)
2006-12-13 11:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by DB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no!!!!!!!! don't ever leave him. have him realize that he is wasting his life away in drinking. only because his mom drinks doesn't mean he can just waste his life and not care about anything. make him realize it, force him if necessary. tell him of all the things he can accomplish. if he is really smart, he needs to make the smart choice to stop drinking before he gets sick or killed by some disease. stand by him, and don't let him drink, even if you have to use brute force. it is the best for him. good luck!
2006-12-13 11:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the friend is going through some things right now and drinking is the only way to get rid of the problems
2006-12-13 12:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by blaque 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cannot get an alcoholic to stop drinking. They have to want to stop on their own. You can voice your concern that they may have a problem but be prepared to lose them as a friend if they dont wanna hear what you have to say...good luck
2006-12-13 11:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by prince4816 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe showing him this question and answer, it may help him understand the problem he has, it will contine to get worse, and unfortunely rock bottom won't be far behind.. Good luck to you and your friend
2006-12-13 11:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what. I drink 7 days a week. Big deal! Leave him alone!
2006-12-13 11:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by asheslovesjoel 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are his friend it must be addressed he is probaly on his way to some serious problems if he doesn't at LEAST slow down.
2006-12-13 11:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Emily ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him.
he might be drinking because of a problem.
help him solve his problem and he might stop drinking.
if that doesnt work.
he needs conseling...professional help.
hope this helps you =]
2006-12-13 11:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by nikita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its their desision to drink and you shouldnt try to forcefully stop them. you could tell him the risks of being an alcoholic and most importantly, tell him your concerned for his health and his future
2006-12-13 11:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by !!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋