My husband thinks i am mad at him but i'm not. I love him and enjoy having sex with him. Is it because he can't stay hard and i don't get totally plzd or am i expecting to much of him in bed and get let down. I hate feeling like this please help.
2006-12-13 11:48:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lock, you just totally described how i feel. I have even talked to my husband about my feelings and he tells me its not true but i can't help but get that feeling sometimes you know. What did you do to stop feeling this way.
2006-12-13 12:58:18 · update #1
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2006-12-13 13:25:09 · update #2
Wow. That is really tough. Maybe you should try mixing things up in bed, I know easier said then done right!
My hubby and I had a period of a couple of years where we were like down to once every couple of months we would do it. I guess there were lots of factors, we got bored, no foreplay, other things on our minds. What ever the reasons we basically forgot how much fun it could be,
So I started to try and get more adventurous, Start off slowly. I started off by talking a little dirty and found that that really turned him on and we have branched off from there.
So try whatever you are comfortable with but start slow... you don't want to scare him!!!
Good luck
2006-12-13 13:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by deans_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue believe it or not is not sex. The issue is a complex psycho-social-sexual factor that affects many parts of your personality. Basically, you are being rejected and given no value by this man. Eating and sleeping are not the solution but indicate depression. Women tend to place their entire lives on the hands of their men. This is a ridiculous notion which is immature and naive. There is no place for fear in a relationship. You are so concerned as to his feelings that your feelings of being rejected, ignored, abandoned are like a cancer eating away your entity, sense of person and personality. You are committing social and personal suicide. Is this any way to conduct a life? You are in need of terminating this before you weigh 340 lbs. and he throws you out of the house. STOP. Just STOP being a doormat. There is only one choice and it is to end this. The honeymoon was over and there is nothing substantial here. Sorry. Find a better life. Yes, it shall hurt and he shall even beg forgiveness and cry and beg you not to go. But if you do nothing shall change. This story is repeated a thousand times a day. Sorry. Best wishes.
2016-03-13 06:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not quite sure I'm understanding your question. Are you not getting completely satisfied or not having an orgasm? Or are you physically satisfied but feeling some sort of resentment or anger for enjoying the physical part of your marraige while maybe some other emotional needs aren't being met? This sounds like a cliche' but communication is absolutely the key. First, search yourself for the reason WHY you are angry. It is only then that you can move forward to communication with him. Best of Luck.....
2006-12-13 11:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by spunky_blonde_nurse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had the same feeling, but for me it was I that instigated the sex and I always felt that my husband was giving me sex because it was his husbandy duty to do so. It even crossed my mine that my husband may have been gay. He really wasn't interested in having sex with me. Over time I stopped instigating the sex. And then the real depress set in. I have no idea what to advice you. I can only tell you of my experiences and how it effected me
2006-12-13 12:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be very frustrating if you aren't getting fully satisfied sexually every single time. If you love him and enjoy sex with him, please try and continue to stay on with him even after he's done. Continue after-play as a way to stay connected. Hopefully he'll regain his desire and get hard again for you.
Else, if premature ejaculation or staying hard is a constant problem, he should seek medical help. Viagara or Cialis are a few of the medical solutions doctors recommend these days. That might help.
And if you'd like to share other thoughts or questions, please don't hesistate to email/IM me. Good luck.
2006-12-13 12:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what your expectations are but reality is about 5 minutes. That's what foreplay is for to even up the finish line.
Ask for a little more warm up and then jump him when you can't take any more. You will both end up DONE.
2006-12-13 11:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to guide him to the places that turn you on.
Most men dont even know where the clitoris is. For hardness give him viagra or if you want a whole weekend of unending hardon try cialis.
A mans most potent sexual tool is not his penis but his TONGUE, show him where to put it and what to do with it.
Most men (speaking as one) work on the "wham, bam, thank you ma`am" concept. Some of us insist on making our women come before we even get to penetration, thus guaranteeing success. We are the weaker sex in bed, you lot can come and come and come, whereas 99% of men have no control whatsoever and once theyve come, GAME OVER.
Good luck
2006-12-13 11:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Old Cynic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest your husband getting some medical advice i know i would be a little upset if i was never satisfied.There might be something medically wrong that could be fixed
2006-12-13 11:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by tychdyboys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having more foreplay. Maybe he can get you there several times before he has his turn.
2006-12-13 11:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by righteousrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to give you orgasm before he finishes. Get him to excite you with oral sex.
2006-12-13 11:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋