the worst part about it is he has a 2 year old son. we are not together any more thank god but my son is my life, and i want to give him every thing in the world and this ''man" cant even by his milk because he lives at home with his mama and does nothing with his life
2006-12-13 11:42:31 · 20 answers · asked by naomierock2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You answered your own question, Sweetie. "He lives at home with his Mama." If she won't make him get off his tail and support his child there isn't a lot you can do. Go after him for Child Support. The courts will make him (or Mama) pay!
2006-12-13 11:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh,I see what the problem is.... Mom doesn't m ake him do or pay for anything and probably always babied him. She is lonely and just wants him there for he company. She waits on him hand and foot like a king so why should he get a job when Mommy does everything for him. I bet she even pays his chils support when you get any. But let me ask you this. Does he own anything at all of his own??? IF So you could get a court order or something to sell his car since he doesn't want to work anyway,why does he need it and give the money to his son. Or you could get a court order and have his butt locked up,he'll do road clean up there. And then you could drive by and WAVE real big. He is not a man,and will never be. What is he going to do when Mommy's gone?? He is only sponging off his mother. If it were me,I would try one last time to get the support,if nothing comes of it,just let it go. Your son will be better off for it. When your son gets alittle older he'll find out what a bum and loser his dad really is.
2006-12-13 18:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by K. l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the reason for the split sometimes the ex doesn't want to succeed because they will end up giving you money through child support so they stay poor purposely. I must admit I found it discouraging paying support to watch the ex buy her new boyfriend gifts with it but I paid it to have a clear conscience. If he was assured the money would go to his child, most fathers would make the effort to provide well. If he is somewhat immature it could also be anger at you and feelings of helplessness and this is the only way he can hurt you. Either way his mother should be pushing him to support her grand child as well unless she is the one with something against you. Hope I gave you a few ideas..but good on you for being a good parent.
2006-12-13 11:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother does the same thing to his ex. He hasn't had a steady job in about two years and has a two year old daughter. There really isn't anything you can do except get an attorney or get with your counties Department of Human Services Child Support Division and make him pay. If you go through them, they can garnish his income taxes (provided he files any) when the time comes. They will also keep track of payments made and if he doesn't he can suffer great consequences. People like him can lose their drivers license, go to jail and all kinds of hardships. Good luck!
2006-12-13 11:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! and I am curious, did he grow up without his father?
If not, he obviously does not have a clue of what a decent man/ father is.
He's not a man; a real man would provide support for his child.
He's immature, irresponsible and needs a wake up call. And until his mamma stops supporting him and re-inforcing this behavior he'll never change.
You and your son are far better off without him. Purge the loser from your life and surround yourself with better people.
Make a promise to yourself and your little boy- I will live the life that I hope for my child.
2006-12-13 12:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Wanderlust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will catch up to him when he starts to get his **** together and wants to be with someone else it will all bite him in the *** I hope that you have applied for some type of assistance so they can nail him for it later I live in Minnesota and they crack down on men who don't want to get jobs and support there kids they yank there DL and can even get jail time he is lazy and thank goodness you are not with him your son needs better in his life as well as you do
2006-12-13 11:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah there could be allot of reasons, but the most logical one is the obvious. Hes a lazy slob who's is being enabled by his mom who is providing a roof and food. Your son will be better off not knowing a male who calls himself his father until the father grows up and gets a backbone and takes care of his responsibility.
2006-12-13 11:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, mental illness/depression is usually to blame. If you love your son, stop worrying about this deadbeat and make a good life for you and your son. You can't change him, but you can change the way you react to him. Set the best example possible for your son. Be kind to his father. Respect yourself. Work hard and support your son completely seperate from what his father does or doesn't do. Good Luck!
2006-12-13 11:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is he is not a MAN he is a CHILD and has yet to grow up and accept responsibility.
He has a child, and he should be working to help support that child. He needs to realize that it is time to grow up. His mom is not helping things. She is an enabler. She allows him to remain a child instead of growing up into a man. She probably enjoys having her "baby" at home to keep her company.
2006-12-13 11:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my 44 year old ex wife,lazy ,pot head, and no ambition to support her self wants to live off of others and thinks the world owes her something
2006-12-13 18:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋