my mom's mom (she didn't deserve the title of "grandmother") was mean and selfish and never did anythihg nice or said anything nice to anyone, ever... she made my mother miserable for her entire life, since she was a young child and was forced to care for the family as if she was the mom (all the cooking and cleaning, and all of taking care of her 2 younger brothers...)
when I was 14, simply because I had developed some breasts and the beginning of some hips (I was not the least bit over weight, just finally got some natural curves), the ***** asked me if I had put on some weight?!? UM.....HELLO??? that's EXACTLY the sort of thing that could make a healthy young girl become anorexic or bulemic...
I was never able (much less inclined) to forgive her for any or all of that.
so, I've been overjoyed all afternoon, singing and whistling "DING DONG THE WITCH IS DEAD" from the Wizard of Oz, and skipping, and I have a newly found spring in my step.
IS THAT SO WRONG??
2006-12-13 11:42:12 · 8 answers · asked by Elaine T 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
From your description your grandmother was a horrible person in your life and since that horror is now gone it seems pretty normal that you would be relived but overjoyed??? That suggests that even though she is gone she left you with allot of baggage. You may want talk to someone like a counselor just to help vent it all out. Forgiveness is not always for the person that did you wrong, sometimes it is to help heal yourself. Good luck.
2006-12-13 12:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by x_cindergirl_x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that's how you feel, that's how you feel. But you might want to try to figure out your anger and resentment. It is not a fun life to have that much hate in your heart. Right now, try being there for your mom. She may hate her own mother, but I bet she is pretty sad right now. Its not worth it to jump up and down. Why stoop to the level that you claim your grandmother was?
2006-12-13 11:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess kind of in a way it is because even if you she made your mother miserable she was STILL her mother . and to a child mother should be god. and even though she said that to you everyone makes mistakes and im sure she didnt think you would take it as serious as you did.
but still the way you feel is they way you feel
i just wouldnt have reacted the way you did if i was you.
2006-12-13 11:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew two people whose deaths made me smile and think "Well, it's about time!" We may not feel its right to judge someone as if we knew their soul, but as humans we do feel relief when a person who tried to make everyone suffer is at last taking the dirt nap. Feel free to feel relieved.
2006-12-13 11:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes sweet heart it just as bad for you to stoop to her level and act the way you are acting now . I'm sure you are a better person than that .
2006-12-13 11:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rom 12:14 Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not.
Rom 12:21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
2006-12-13 13:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by BlueEyes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have rejoiced over the death of several people, mostly former teachers. i don't think it's wrong, especially is the person was mean, cruel, spiteful, and/or obnoxious.
2006-12-13 12:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't find it wrong. You hated her, so why shouldn't you be glad she's gone?
2006-12-13 11:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋