I've been with my husband for a long time now but we have been through alot this past year and a half that has our marriage strange and just not normal. We dont make love the same no more like we just do it to get a nut off. He'll never treat me the same ever again like I was some angel, and I must admit that i dont treat him the same anymore. I never seen him look at so much porn a day in my life I dont even think that I turn him on anymore. He tells me one thing and means another, now he hides everything from me now. He told me that he was'nt in love with me anymore but he loves me. I can honestly admit that hurt my heart more than anything he has ever said to me. I'm in love with my husband and want to work thing out but there has'nt been a change in anything. The biggest mistake I think I've made is not my marriage but getting pregnant and bringing my unborn child into a marriage that is not stable with no love in it. I dont know what to do because I'm in love with him.
2006-12-13 11:35:06 · 9 answers · asked by missy87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that he is confused as to what he wants to do. But if he's not in love with me any more why is he wasting my time?
2006-12-13 11:37:18 · update #1
Sometimes people don't know what they have until they lose it and clearly this is a case of taking each other for granted. Marriages go through little patches like that and the best way to realise what you have together is to lose it for a bit. Usually even the fear of losing it is enough to shake things up. If you take a break you will find the first week is bliss and you both think you did the right thing but then in the second week you start to pine for each other and realise how stupid you have been. In a nut shell the kid is right..lol
2006-12-13 11:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I could imagine that was a blow when he said he wasn't in love with you. Have you all ever thought about marriage counseling? That can help a lot. Have you all ever sat down and try to figure out what's the problem? Communication is the key and if there's no communication, then the relationship will go down hill. He could be staying because of the child. Maybe you should tell him that you love him but it is best that you two be a part for a while to figure things out and find out what you all want out of the marriage.
2006-12-13 19:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to leave or just get his attention. you both have to sit down like adults and discuss this matter about the unborn child and your currently declining feelings for each other. if there has been some cheating on one end or the other, you have to decide weather to live and get over it or just move on, communication is always key but unfortunately it takes two. I hope everything works out for you. Peace:) jazz
2006-12-13 20:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by jazz101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a third party to help guide this marriage. Seek help and try to work out the differences. It is natural not to have the butterfly feelings anymore but something needs to hold this marriage between the two of you.
2006-12-13 19:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a total loss if your both willing to put some serious effort into it. It has to come from both of you and the funny thing is that it can be easy......if you want it to be. If you both want to work it out go get counseling. A big investment would be some workshops by Lana Holstein and David Taylor. This is an investment both in your relationship and some cash......It's worth every penny. Trust me. :)
2006-12-13 19:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by Evolving 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love can be so confusing and it don't get any easier to fathom as you get older, but the traditional method for most women is to give the standard line "I love you but I'm not in love with you." If he is a smart guy he'll recognize that it is time for him to put his efforts to find love everlasting elsewhere, and you'll be free to pursue the love of your life without regrets.
2006-12-13 19:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by ralegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need councilling especially your husband. He needs to talk to someone about his feeling and not bottle them up. If you continue to allow the marriage to go on as then someone is going to end up with a health problem.
2006-12-13 20:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not being mean here but you both need some serious help. Especially before that kids gets there
2006-12-13 19:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take a break from eachother but still stay in touch. I'm only12 so this might not help
2006-12-13 19:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by Spartanballer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋