After confronting him about his affair, and me trying to fix things, he's becoming abusive. Today I went to go take a bath and he freaked out because he wanted to shave before leaving so he kicked down the door and almost hit me with the piece of wood that flew off the door. I told him I was leaving and he twisted my wrists and told me I wasn't going anywhere. How do I get out without him hurting me or my daughter?
2006-12-13 11:24:10 · 18 answers · asked by fairiesinstars 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No I don't care if he's shaving or whatever while I'm in the bath tub but I didn't know he needed in there. So I just assumed he was leaving and locked the door.
2006-12-13 11:31:23 · update #1
Wtf is going on??? Who shut your cell phone off??? Why don't you and lil one come here? He's hitting you? I swear I'll kill that fu**er. I'm your sister....your spose to come to me with this stuff anyways. I love you both....be safe.....I'll come get you tomorrow. Call me from a pay phone when he leaves for work. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF...please. If you can't leave tonight or tomorrow then call and let me know. This is way out of hand k.....
2006-12-13 16:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~*~A~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's not there all the time. Leave as soon as you get the chance, and don't tell ANYONE that he knows where you are. Stay with family, a work acquaintance, a hotel, whatever, just get the hell out.
The most important thing is to NEVER GO BACK and PRESS CHARGES as necessary. It's a stupid woman that stays in an abusive relationship.
That's right, it's not love, it's not commitment, it's not "for better or worse" crap, it's blatant stupidity. NO ONE should tolerate an abisuve partner.
2006-12-13 20:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to collect all written records (birth cert, drivers liscense, medical, tax racords, etc), any RX, personal items, daughter's fav toy and have ready to run.
Call your local women's shelter at a time when you are SURE to be safe to leave. If you can't stay with a friend or relative where you and your daughter will be safe you might want to have enough personal items and clothing to last two weeks (this isn't that important).
They will help you plan the next step.
The most important thing to remember is that you and/or you daughter can be injured whether he intends to or not. It can occur quite by accident (i.e. - bathroom door incident) due to his volitile nature.
You are doing the right thing - the safe thing - the thing that insures your future - that you have any future at all. - Best of luck
Copy silverside's answer - perfect
2006-12-13 19:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who had the same sort of problem her old man just kept on loosing the plot at any time during the day or night. even waking up and abusing her. she waited till he went to work and left home leaving him with most of the possetions. she phoned me up to ask if i could keep an eye on him for her. But he had a go at me a few months later so i told him some home truths about stuff in the hope he would top himself but it all worked out in the end. I think he is still alive;)
2006-12-13 22:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Barry W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, pack the papers first, then baby's clothes and then a warm blanket for the baby then a change of clothing for you. Tonight when he is a sleep or at work, you go and you go far away call the abuse hot line. These people will come and get you unless you have family that will take you in. Don't worry everything will eventually fall into place. Take Care~
2006-12-13 19:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by YO~NO~FUI E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Protect yourself and your daughter. You need to stay alive for her. I know this is hard for you, but find somewhere else to go before it's too late. You said it freaked you out, don't be surprised if he gets more abusive. You are unique and beautiful in your own way. You desevre to be #1 in a mans life, after all you are worth it. I have been there too girl, hang in there.
2006-12-13 19:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would leave while he was gone.. other then that i don't see why he couldn't come in the bathroom while you were in the bath.. he is your other half right?? i dont' know i think i would get out if i believed he would get worse, but come on your together so why couldn't you both be in the bathroom together.. my man is always in the bathroom while i'm showering or taking a bath, i think it turns him on sometimes and he just wants to see me touching myself..lol other then that i'm sorry that, that happened to you.. good luck and best wishes!
2006-12-13 19:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check your phone book, there is a number that's for abuse, and they help you get out and they have a place you and your daughter can stay.
It's a 24 hr. hotline. ALSO, call the Police, they have these numbers also and alot of information too.
Stay safe!
2006-12-13 23:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by julesrules 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl well he is out and i think he is still cheating on you leave pack what you can and have a family member pick you up and go to the police department and file a complaint on him and get a restraining order asap. do not let him abuse you because of his guilty cautious.
2006-12-13 19:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave while he is at work...and whatever u do go somewhere were u will be safe...once u r out of the house get a restraining order on his worthless azz...when u go to file custody for ur daughter, make sure he gets supervised visitation...until he gets help for his temper, he is not only a threat to u but also to ur daughter...good luck and God Bless
2006-12-13 19:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by Michele 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋