2006-12-13 11:11:53 · 38 answers · asked by diamondsgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yup. YOu sure gave up a lot, hon. That means you were a mom + or - 17...... geez you missed out on some great college days. It will come back to haunt you. Are you too young to be married??? for sure, and too young to be a mom too...but it won't sink in until you're about 28
2006-12-13 12:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there is never a "right age". Some people are just mature at 21 and some never mature. It takes two "mature" people and love to make a marriage work. So if one of you is mature and the other is not...then well you got a problem...or if there is lack of true love on the other hand...then you also got a problem.
Honestly marriage is a roll of the dice...and the one thing I can say....at 21...you will definitely evolve as time goes on....and this growth may or may not be at the pace of your boyfriend/husband, and that is when marriages usually fail because what you want at 21 is not exactly what you want at say 28. So only you can truly answer this question because you know your other half better than any of us on here....so do you see yourself growing together as people....or growing apart due to differences...of career, family, friends...........all things that will come in to play as the years go on and you figure out what it is you want out of life..........it just may be different.
2006-12-13 11:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by devilishdame1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is kind of a backward question. If you didn't think you were "too young" to have kids, why would you feel that you *might be* too young to get married? Getting married is much less of a committment than having children. I would generally say yes, late teens - early 20s is too early to get married, but with kids in the picture you might as well make it "legal".
2006-12-13 11:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're too young to have 2 kids, so the married part is a moot point. I married at 19 and I was too young...but I wouldn't have listened to anyone about that back then anyway (I'm 41 now).
Good luck.
2006-12-13 11:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
age is irrelevant (as long as you're over 18). what really matters is how mature you are. marriage is a huge step in a person's life, but i'd say that it pales in comparison to having children because your children are totally dependent on you for everything (clothes, food, love, shelter, etc.).
if you love this guy, then no, 20 or 21 is not too young to get married. If you don't love him, do NOT get married (i don't care if he is the father of your children) you'd only do more harm than good.
whatever happens, good luck to you and your children.
2006-12-13 11:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by The Guru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow id say your too young for children but hey that already happened. No i dont think your too young im 20 turning 21 in may and ive been married since august. you just have to ask yourself are you willing to commit to this man forever put up with anything annoying he does. Stand by him through everything forever. Because marriage is forever. You have to be willing to compromise and make it work. Marriage is hard and there are alot of this that can strain it like kids ,money ,and his gross habits. If you love him and are willing to be with him till you die go for it.
2006-12-13 16:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as y'all are happy together as a family, theres no reason why y'all dont get married. If its something the both of y'all want, then go for it. Dont worry what other people say if they dont agree with your marriage. In the older days, people were married when they were 14 or 15, so getting married in your early 20's is not a big deal. I wish ya the best!
2006-12-13 11:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you have two kids together you're not too young to get married. Parenting takes a whole lot more maturity then people may give you credit for. Good luck!
2006-12-13 11:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 20 when i got married so i say no you arent to young. If you feel you are up to being married and being with that one person then go for it. All the best of luck to you
2006-12-13 11:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not about what anybody thinks, it is what you and he think. Don't invite people into your relationship, do without busy bodies in your business. You have 2 kids, there is obviously something there, but then again, having kids doesn't make parents, and a lot of husband and wives don't make marriages. It is an individual thing (yours and his). God Bless.
2006-12-13 11:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋