I am the man speaking from my faince's yahoo...
OK, my fiance and I have been together for about 4 years now... we were set to get married in Aug. of 2007...
About a year ago, i was trying to buy a car but i couldnt get approved, I asked everyone in my family if they can co sign me but all the dealers said I needed to have someone else be the primary in order for me to have the car. No one was able to lend me theier credit so I asked her and she said yes. So I finaly got the car and everything was fine... Until her parents found out that she had done that when I was only her boyfriend. I have made every single payment, and I have never been late, I would never do anything to harm her credit, I love this girl. But, when her parents found out all hell broke loose, now this family is very "old fashioned" with their daughter, very strict. Now I am not allowed at their hom because I apprantly took advantage of her kidness... please tell me the truth was i wrong, what should i do?
2006-12-13 11:00:46 · 11 answers · asked by Carla A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Did you know that her parents were going to get upset? I'm guessing you didn't know and given that I don't think you did anything wrong.
What you can do is just keep making the payments on time. If you've done this for a while now, it may be possible to refinance using only your own credit. And, it will actually give her credit rating a BOOST when you pay it all off. Maybe once you've got the car in your name only you could try talking to them or maybe SHE can talk to them. I let a guy borrow my credit to get a credit card. He maxed that thing out right away and I was worried that I had done something stupid. But then things turned around for him and he paid it all off leaving me with an improved credit score and no debt! Worked out well for me. :)
2006-12-13 11:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, bro., it it like this: As the man of the relationship you are supposed to be setting the example. You are expected to be the main provider, the defender of your house, and even to have the primary spiritual responsibility. After all, Adam was created first and he was in charge of the Garden of Eden long before Eve came along. Understand that they do not trust you because you have not earned their trust. Yes, trust is always earned. To make the grade with her family you need to have a reliable source of income. If you did not go to college and simply have a job somewhere you are in a unfavorable position. Everyone who has lived long enough knows that the economy changes constantly and that without a profession to back you up you will be in trouble soon enough and your wife and children will be sailing on the Titanic. Being a husband entails much and one of the best ways for you to make the grade is by being financially secure. Education opens many doors so never stop learning. A good job is just that, a job. When they don't need you they will fire you, so never trust a job. Always save about 30% of your income at a high rate such as ING. Most banks don't have a prayer against them. Also, consider your age. If you are younger than 27 you are too young to marry since you have not matured enough and have not had a chance to make it in life. Besides, what's the hurry? You can always continue dating.
Mr. urges you to take your time and do things well. Her family has her best interest in mind, so don't take it personally. After all, she is very precious to them and you need to endear yourself to them. LIVE LIFE INTENTIONALLY. Working hard is good, but working smart is much, much better.
Get to it, tiger.
Mr. M on "advice."
2006-12-13 11:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, her parents raised their daughter and now she is a grown women who makes her own choices.She decided to give you the use of her credit, and from what you say you have earned her respect by treating it well.Her parents are going to think what they think no matter what you say so just let them be ignorant about it if thats all they can seem to be.You and her still have a good thing and for her sake be pleasant to them when your forced to deal with them.And let them have their space and their beliefs. Always be the better person and one day if you two get married and have a family, I am sure they will come around and change the errors of their ways.If not, you certainly tried and dont owe them anything.
2006-12-13 11:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am guessing both of you are old enough to understand what y'all were doing, families can be tough, just keep paying and do not mess her credit up... it is hard to repair, how long have you been making payments, maybe you can go your bank and get it refinanced, just to make them happy. I know where they are coming from I had great credit until I dated a guy who needed a credit card, he was going through a divorce, I was 23, lets just say he never paid for it after he maxed it out and I now pay for it with very high interest rates..
2006-12-13 11:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by HappyGoLucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay well if you honestly want to be with this girl then you need to make some adjust ments with yourself. bc i have a feeling that you didnt give out all the info that is needed to give you a good answer. it sounds like you prolly have bad credit, and that maybe you have done something in the past that maybe caused the parents to not like you. if you want to make this relationship work then you have some mafor issues you need to fix and make it apparent to the parents. but you gotta keep it up even after you get married.
2006-12-13 11:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong to put your girl friend in a bad spot with her parents.
How do you intend to support your new, to be, wife if you have not or bad credit.
Turn your life around, if you love her.
Ask to talk to her father and don't be a jerk. Be very humble and ask for his forgiveness.
2006-12-13 11:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by soar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your loved ones to recover from themselves, which you're making your very own judgements in existence and in the event that they don't like it, demanding. over the years they're going to see what happiness he brings into your existence and that they are going to come to get exhilaration from him. If it is basically not the case then do not communicate on your loved ones for a stable mutually as. they are going to grow to be puzzled and prefer to comprehend why you're ignoring them and you will basically tell them that's because of the fact in the event that they could't understand your needs and needs then they needless to say do not love you and you have moved on. in the event that they actually care, they are going to beg on your forgiveness or a minimum of attempt to speak like the adults that they are. Oh and communicate this out alongside with your guy. in case you have each objective of sticking with the help of his area with the aid of and in the time of, then he needs to comprehend those issues. additionally facebook is a unfavourable web page. get rid of your kinfolk off of your chum record and alter your inner maximum settings to the max making specific that the only people who can see your wall not to show positioned up something are pals in uncomplicated terms.
2016-10-14 21:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong it's just that they are scared. They don't want their daughter to have bad credit that's all. They will get over it and be nicer soon.
2006-12-13 11:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with them and explain to them that before you asked her for the credit that you already had intentions on being with her for a long time ext ext
2006-12-13 11:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by who 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sucks dosent it my fiance's parents hate me too and i say hire the mob .....lmao
2006-12-13 11:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋