everyone in my debate class hate this girl but she somehow thinks i'm friends with her eventhough i don't like her either.
i really want her to leave us all alone.
is it ok if i just say it like it is...or should i make up an excuse?
2006-12-13 10:59:26 · 7 answers · asked by lin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just say that,she should find other people to hang around with. but i mean,u could just keep being her friend,give her time and she might get better. good luck =]
2006-12-13 11:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice enough to her in class, but don't ever invite her to anything outside of class or give her any reason to think you want to be friends outside of class. She probably hates being the outsider in the group and is trying to get in with anyone who will give her the time of day.
You can tell her if there is something she does that bothers you (nicely, of course) or if she is being obnoxious or rude. Otherwise just be polite but cool towards her (not mean and cold). If she follows you around outside of class , tell her politely that you prefer to be with other friends and that you really are not interested in a friendship. Tell her you just don't think the two of you "hit it off" or something like this. Honest but not mean. Just tell her you think there are some other people who may enjoy her company more and that you think she should make other friends.
I know it's not easy, and you will feel bad, but it's much better if you do not put up with her and then get so resentful you lash out at her one day. do it while you're still calm.
2006-12-13 19:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just to tell her straight out but I know you don't want to hurt her feelings. But if you go ahead and tell her early on instead of leading her on. You will be doing her a favor. Because the truth is its just inconvenient to have friends that you don't like to be around and chances are she is doing everything to try to keep you her friend which is making it hard on her. It would be better for her to find friends that she gets along with.
I know from first hand experience once I got away from people that didn't want to be with me I made friends that loved being around me. And I basically make more money and drive a nicer car than everyone that didn't want to be my friend.
So honestly do her a favor
2006-12-13 19:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by rocko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, but my daughter had this problem with someone in her 9th grade class. The person may have a hard time making friends due to severe personal problems or learning disabilities, and is acting out of desparation. If it really doesn't "cramp your style", then try being friendly with her at least at school. Your kindness could turn her world around, and may make her act differently.
2006-12-13 19:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had this guy who I dont like thinking he's my best friend for years. Get rid of her anyway you can or you'll be miserable. My best guess would be to humilate her in public or just throw a fit at her next time she annoys you.
2006-12-13 19:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by dacheese 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
flat out tell her. sometimes you have to be that way. don't be mean to her but tell it like it is.
2006-12-13 19:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by cynfyx3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here
2006-12-13 19:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by NELLI S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋