How to alleviate the urge for revenge?

Question

I was recently wronged, in my eyes, horribly wronged and am now being detrementally punished for something that wasn't totally my fault. Without saying exactly what transpired, let's just say that I WAS 50% in the wrong, but cannot take full responsibility. And now I am engrossed with an almost maniacal need for revenge, to hurt "them" they way they hurt me. I would never get violent and there's really no way for me to achieve my desired goal. My problem is HOW DO I PURGE THIS FEELING-THIS ALMOST DEMONIC URGE/CRAVING FOR REVENGE??? It is all encompassing and eating me alive, literally. I know, as an adult, I need to just let it go and move on, but something inside of me cannot get past this need to hurt those who have hurt me. I just want this horrible feeling of HATE to go away. (I think there was a question in there somewhere.) Please no smart-alec answers. Thanks :)

Let me say, I'm not wanting to kill anyone or some crazy **** like that, I just wanna, I dont know, send them a nasty greeting card filled with dog poo or something sick like that. (makes me feel like 12 year old)

Answer 1

This may sound a little silly, but go bowling.

Bowling is a wonderfully theraputic sport. Afterall, here is this nice arrangement of pins, and you are blowing it all to hell with a bowling ball. It is great for getting aggressions out.

A lot of times anger can manifest itself in your hands. (The need to clinch your fists ... see the point?) Doing work with your hands may help as well. Personally, I like working with wood for this. The pounding of a hammer is a wonderful feeling!!! Any other mildly violent work with your hands might also work for you as well.

Either way it is a way to use that energy that wants to get out through your hands out of your system.

Answer 2

well theres way more things to worry about in life than revenge. life takes alot of turn and if u did wrong or they did every ones get is share 4 what they done in life. all u gotta do sit and watch and wait intill the person falls. if not **** it do it when they least expect it. some times people do deserve a punch or 2

Answer 3

The best thing you can do-and I know you will look at this sideways-but the best thing for you to do is be the bigger person and forgive and leave it all at the feet of God. Nothing you can do can ever hurt them in the manner that God will make them suffer for wronging you, one of His children.

The devil is using this rage in your to try to get you to do something, but in anger people have lost their freedom because they did not stop to consider the consequences no matter how big or small. If you have a family, do you want to allow this one person to cause a lifetime of pain for your wife and kids?

You may never forget, especially if it hurt this bad, but you do need to forgive in order to move on. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

In actuallity you shouldn't worry about revenge. Something bad will happen to the other person regardless. You should just wait it out. An even worse punishment will be bestowed upon them.

Answer 5

Heh if its physical goto a gym and work it out. If it is more mental find a hobby, something to take your mind off of it. Something you can focus on nothing but what your doing. For me I can get lost in music, video games, internet, going for a walk by myself, stuff like that. Best of luck to you.

P.S. sometimes it just takes time to get over it.

Answer 6

damn its that bad? well the thing that always helps me is knowing that karma exsists. It will get back to them some way or another (x3fold) and they will pay. You are filling urself with negativity thats why you feel the way you do. Let karma do the work.

Answer 7

I understand how you feel. It is not for us to get revenge. God will take care of the good as well as the bad people. The bad will burn for a long time.