If either of you were married, and you knew that there was absolutley no way for your, or his, significant other to find out, would you persue an affair with him? If so, would you keep seeing him, or just make it a one time thing (to get it out of your system)?
2006-12-13 10:46:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, I would never, ever cheat. Even if I was unhappy in my marriage, I would never cheat. It's just inconceivable to me.
That's like saying, "If you could (fill in the blank with unethical/illegal/immoral behavior) and you know there's no way you'd ever get caught, would you do it to get it out of your system?
2006-12-13 10:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about having an affair, then you might want to take a look at your marriage and find out what the problem is. If it is something that can't be fixed and you have exhausted all avenues. Then you should pursue a divorce. Having an affair will only make things worse. Also, I don't think just making it a one time thing will mean it will be out of your system. You need to think about the pain the significant other would feel if they found out. You would be surprised how easy people get caught, and it might not be worth the risk. Don't forget the grass isn't always greener on the other side. You may think something is better, but in reality that is only because it is new.
2006-12-13 18:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No.
This would be why: I made a promise to be faithful and I would keep the promise. If it was an unhappy marriage ( and I am going to assume it is or I wouldn't noticing another man) then I would decide whether or not the marriage could be saved.
Once I was single, then yes I would pursue the relationship but only if he was single too.
I don't believe in cheating on my mate. If I needed to "get it out of my system" I would start by working out why my mate was not fulfilling my needs.......
And this goes for affairs that don't have physical sex involved too.....cheating on someone by flirting on-line etc. is just as bad as having real sex with them. The end result still is breaking a promise.
2006-12-13 18:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by izzardfemme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is always a way for the SO to find out. Always.
As for 'getting it out of your system'...I find that so primal and insulting to the highly evolved human species. We don't need to get things out of our systems unless it's drugs or alcohol or something else that is real.
Why risk everything you have because of lust? Why let him risk everything because of it?
I swear to God I really *do* wonder if there aren't two or more sub-species of human still living today. Those who can control themselves, and those who can't.
Get on with your life and stop trying to ruin his life and/or your own. Be happy with what you have. You, or he, made a committment so keep that committment. Otherwise leave the relationship you're in. Don't hurt the SO more than you have to (and that doesn't mean just lie and cover it up)
2006-12-13 18:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, I would never get involved with a married man. There is no way I would become the other women. I am married, I love my husband, and I have thought of having an affair.
If I would ever, it would be with a single, divorced or widower. And it would be with someone that would be able to supply me with what I lack in my marriage. (Heaven help me).
2006-12-13 18:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm. i would say never if ur with someone ur with them and them only but .. doesnt always work like that. i have had affairs serveral times and i can sit here and say it will never happen again but it always does. and theres no such thing as "an only one time thing", coz once u get the taste of something else of course ur gunna go back for more....
well i hope that is helpful to u lol take care xxx
2006-12-13 18:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by ash_19_2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Once you take the step to marriage and make those vows before GOD and your friends and family you should not be straying outside of that relationship. It's a done deal until divorce or death do you part!
2006-12-13 18:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by IceQueen_Always2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't. A "one time thing" can have unintended consequences. Pregnancy, STD's, you or he develops emotional feelings toward the other, etc.
If you're unhappy in your marriage, get out. It's not fair to stay with the other person out of habit, or only until something better comes along.
2006-12-13 18:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally wouldn't. Depends on the persons conscience. I would have too much guilt about it to cheat on my boyfriend, much less my husband. Now if I were single and he were married, I dunno about that one. I would care so much because if he is willing to cheat on his wife, then thats his perogative. Still not sure if I would do it because that fling is going no where, and casual sex is a no-no for me.
2006-12-13 18:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by __XXX___ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, that's just me. I wouldn't want the same done to me. Besides the other person does it gives me the upper hand.
2006-12-13 18:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋