why is it that daddies dont hold discussion with their lil grls when they frst get their periods & should they

Question

is it ok for men to shirk awat from their rsponsibilities by claiming its grl stuff or they dont kno enuf bout it....i believe all men kno bout it and they cant pretend it never hapned so their grls are left embarrased b4 them thinking its something unnatural...but thas not true! its natural and women should have to be shy...it makes a girl a woman and it is a part of her identity...dont dads have the responsibility of making their grls feel comfortable bout their bodies??

at this point of recieving all except one ridiculous answer idlike to point out that u dont need knowledge bout periods to say to ur daughter its ok this means ur healthy u dont have to diescribe the visual biological effects of it..and if ur a dad and dont kno what mestruation is ur sad!!!!
and ok menstruation isnt like ejaculation!!!! for reasons supported by common sense

***READ THIS: i have gotten better answers from a third world country and that too from men! i applaud the openmindedness of the usa

Answer 1

Only men who aren't comfortable with women and their bodily functions have a problem with their daughters during this part of their lives.

I was out of town when my daughter first got her period.....her dad took her to the drugstore and got her what she needed....and then fixed her some tea. I had already explained this to her but he did it again and asked her if she had any questions.

When I got home she was fine.

He's a very good father because he knows these things are just part of a woman's life.

Woman need to pay attention to the kind of man they're going to marry and have children with.

Answer 2

Many men don't talk about it because many girls are uncomfortable and it makes the father uncomfortable. My dad is fine with the topic, but I feel awkward, and that makes him awkward. They also do not know fully what to say. What if they have complex questions? Not just simple ones? Many guys will not retain the information of periods after high school. They'll just retain the information to leave their girlfriends/wives alone when the time comes, and that they can't always have sex. Other than that, they don't care.

Now, I think that many guys should discuss the topic with their girls only on a small basis, just so the daughter knows that they can come to their father if need be, and not be embarrassed.

Answer 3

We live in a society saturated by sexuality and sex, but we still hold sex as being taboo. Women have been objectified and as a result so has anythiing having to do with sex and reproduction. Most men look at a woman sexually as an object and thus are embarrased when they find their daughter is suddenly a woman. They are very aware that other men will see her as the father sees other women. To talk to the girl about her body and reproductive system would be acknowledging that she is now moreso than ever a sexual being. Also, most men have been taught that a period is nasty and something to hide. Society has taught men and women that the male body is something to behold and praise even sexually. However, the female form, by our society, has been viewed as something to hide, that must be sexually chaste. Under such influence, how could it NOT be difficult for a man to talk to his daughter about menstruation? In addition, women have been saddled with the responsibility of taking care of children, and most men have not. Thus, they know nothing of handling female rites of passage into adulthood.

Answer 4

It is because of two reasons. One, that most people in society today have been brought up to believe in some form or another that sex or anything to do with it is dirty, filfthy, abomidable and sinful. A load of nonesense. They are in a nut shell, embarrished.
Furthermore with a lot of child molestation going on most fathers feel nervous about discussing anything like this to a female child.
The whole context is not openly facing facts and discussing things openly.
Secondly, men are not specialist in regard to children. They do not relate to children in the way that women generally do. This is not their nature. They could adapt, however if it were not for the first reason. We need to do two things:
I Dump in the garbage can of history all this infantile, superstitious and ridiculous nonesense concerning vital and necissary things of the body.
II Inform men, yes tell them-this is why humans talk, that it is ok
for them to concern themselves about such matters.
After all, what is more important: the health and wellbeing of a child or some superstitious piece of crap.

Answer 5

Well, part of the reason dad's don't usually give this talk is probably that they feel uncomfortable about it, but probably a bigger reason that girls usually get the talk from their mom is that their mom has a woman's body. A dad might know what a period is and biologically how it works, but he has no idea what it actually feels like. He's never experienced cramps or the agony of leaking through white pants. I think dads can make girls feel comfortable about their bodies in other ways.
But, I do think dads have a responsibility to talk to their sons about puberty, because again, the dad is the one who knows what it feels like to have a male body and is therefore the best source of information.

Answer 6

Mother's/women should discuss menstruation with girls because they have first-hand knowledge of what it feels like, what the girls should expect it to be like, basically the woman has the expertise in this area. So the woman should be consulted.

If my car is having engine problems I wouldn't take it to Pizza Hut and ask the guy twirling pizzas to look under the hood.

Answer 7

Personally, I want to be the one to discuss this matter with my daughter when the time comes...not my husband. I want my daughter to be able to talk to him freely about anything..."I have cramps", "hey Dad, can you run to the store for some pads?"

But obviously, he won't have the first-hand knowledge of the subject that I will and she will feel more comfortable coming to me. Now if I am not home and her first period arrives, I absolutely expect my daughter to tell her dad (if she isn't too embarrassed!) I plan on giving my husband a tutorial on what to do and say, if this tragedy does happen when I am not home to be with my daughter.

Answer 8

Let's try an analogous situation from another context. Let's say dad has never been to college, but mom has. Daughter is going to her first day in college. Would hse talk to her dad about what she'd be facing, and whether her feelings are normal? No. She'd talk to mom. Mom has the experience.

Ditto with menstruation.

Answer 9

Well they're not at home to do it because the mother was either one of the 4 in 10 that bore a child out of wedlock or the filer of 70% of divorces that are "no fault" filed by the woman.

There you go!

Answer 10

In all honesty, how would a man talk to his daughter about what mentruation is and what her body will go through if he has never experienced it first-hand? That is like a mother telling a son about ejaculating and she has no first-hand knowledge of it.

In my eyes, a father should show his daughter what she should expect to be treated like from other men in her life-and not in the bad but positive way-and that way we will have less young girls growing up as women accepting abuse as a form of love from men.