If your wife was a widow before you married her, would you let her keep pictures of her first husband?

Question

Or would you burn them all one day while she was at work?

I didn't say someone you loved, I said your WIFE.

Answer 1

Since I am a widow I would hope that my next boyfriend/husband would understand why I would have a picture of my first husband. It is not like we were going to get a divorce he was taken away from me after 8 years of marriage. I think with a little bit of trust and understanding the picture(s) will not phase the other person. Not only that, but we have a 6 year old son and I will make sure that he has as many pictures of his father that he wants. If the new husband can not deal with it then tough.

Answer 2

It would be horribly disrespectful to burn your wife's pictures of her former husband! sure she married you, but she was married to another man first, and she has memories of him. She was devastated when he died, and shouldn't be expected to forget him or pretend he never existed.
Don't do this! The guy is dead! Why does it bother you? She needs these pictures. Not because she doesn't love you or loves you less, but just because they were from another time period in her life. You can't just erase the time or the memories of a person who departed this earth. She needs the memories. In time, they will fade, but never disappear. It would be really strange for someone not to keep at least one picture of a former spouse who had passed.
Please, don't let these pictures bother you. They have nothing to do with you and are from a time when you weren't even in the picture.

Answer 3

WELL UNLIKE MEN WOMEN KEEP PICTURES OF THIER EXES AND DECEASED SPOUSES IF YA BURN THEM SHE WILL HATE U FOR LIFE WHAT THE F- - K HOW WOULD U FEEL IF YOUR WERE HER SHES A WIDOWER FOR GODS SAKE YOU SELFISH JERK IF YOUR FIRST WIFE DIED WHILE YALL WERE STILL MARRIED WOULDNT U WANNA REMEMBER HER OR DO U HATE ALL WOMEN THAT QUESTION IS SO INSENSITIVE OMG ALL I CAN SAY IS YA BETTER HOPE SHE DOESNT SEE THIS QUESTION OR YOU'LL BE GETTIN AN ATTORNEY CAUSE SHED LEAVE YA IF YA DID THAT I HAVE PICTURES OF MY EXBOYFRIENDS AND MY HUBBY HAS NO PROBLEM WITH IT HE REALIZES THEY ARE PART OF MY PAST NOTE THE WORD PAST IM EVEN FRIENDS WITH A COUPLE OF MY EXES (bOYFRIENDS THAT IS) AND ME AND MY HUBBY HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 14 YEARS 13 OF WHICH HAVE BEN MARRIED HOW BOUT SHE COME HOME AND DESTROY SOMETHING U LOVE AND CARE FOR WHILE YOUR AT WORK THEN MAYBE YOUD GET THE POINT. IF YALL ARE MARRIED U SHOULD BE SECURE IN THE FACT THAT SHE CHOSE TO SPEND WHATS LEFT OF HER LIFE WITH U NOT GETTIN STUPID ABOUT PICTURES OF SOMEONE SHE LOVED BEFORE U CAME ALONG

Answer 4

Yes, let her keep the pictures, not out in the open but in a closed photo book or something. If she's looking at them all the time tell her how that makes you feel but it would be an infringement on her privacy to burn the pictures while she is away. Don't do that.

Answer 5

I would have no right to deprive another human being of the satisfaction of being able to look at them and revive the feelings she once had for her husband. How insensitive, insecure, immature and just plain stupid do you have to be to even consider that as a possibility? Would you like your wife to burn anything of your passed wife if you were in that situation? Think before putting up such a preposterous question!

Answer 6

It would not be my right to "let her keep pictures" of her first husband; it is up to her if she wants to keep them or not. You have no right to burn her pictures or anything else she owns. You need to get some help and get over being so insecure. If you love your wife, get some help for yourself.

Answer 7

Are you serious or just an idiot? That was a love lost due to death, not divorce, YOU can not do anything but understand she has a past, and it was severed by an act of God. Feel proud that she was able to love again and found that love with you. But as far as LETTING her? Time to get over your insecure jealousy of the fact she had a man in her past.Grow up and Man up, it is not your place to LET her do anything. It is your place to support her.

Answer 8

to burn pictures of an ex dead spouse or even any ex, shows your insecurtiy, shows your ignorance, as she married u and not someone else. she loves u, if u burn her pictures it means u are controlling, and unable to share her even with someone who is gone. she will always have her memories, everyone of us has a past with someone else. if u burn the pictures, she will see the true u, be a man and don't let this stuff interfere with your marriage, it is not as though the man is taking anything away from u, he is gone, and only his memories remain, and they will be there forever. grow up, and be a real man.

Answer 9

Why wouldn't you?
But then again if she loves you she should be able to do this on her own. If she doesn't whenever she looks at one of the pictures if it really bothers you, let her know how you feel about her having the pictures. Good Luck.

Answer 10

That's so wrong. He didn't do anything wrong. You signed up to be with a woman and you risk any hurt that may cause due to her past. She incurs the same risk with anything from your past. She shouldn't have any up around the house, but it's ok for her to keep them becuase that's a part of who she was and you shouldn't burn it but accept it...if you love her.