2006-12-13 09:56:24 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't do it, if you don't want to. You don't need him to help you raise the child. There are plenty of single mothers out there doing it. Just tell him that you don't want to have an abortion and that you are going to have this baby and there is nothing he can do about it. Either he will stay and support you or he will leave you. Either way you will always feel some love for him since he is the father of your child. i still love my soon to be ex even though he has screwed me over many of times.
2006-12-13 10:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy To Be in April 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are against abortions then you shouldn't get one just because your ex-boyfriend wants you to. You and your unborn child have to go through the abortion, not him. You say you still love your ex, but don't you love this child? Would you go as far as to kill it just because your EX-boyfriend wants you to? If, on the other hand, you think keeping the child will insure that the ex you still love is involved in your life then you need to understand something. In the vast majority of instances, having a child amidst a bad or ended relationship strains the situation and only makes it worse. Not saying you shouldn't have your baby, because I'm not a real supporter of abortions myself, but don't maintain any false expectations about what will happen with your ex when you have this child. Do what's in your heart and what you and only you feel is best. If you do that then you'll make a good decision.
2006-12-13 10:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't comprehend what he's thinking because of the fact i don't examine minds. For me although, I see which you have already lied a pair circumstances to him. First, i assume you lied approximately being on the pill. at the instant it is important which you're able to desire to be on the pill. the undeniable fact which you weren't shows you're the two incompetent or intentionally have been given pregnant. then you definately reported you had to undertake the youngster yet now you're changing your recommendations. All of those are YOUR judgements and he in all probability feels very powerless. actually you would be making judgements that impact him for the subsequent two decades. you assert you do not "choose" him and that i'm specific that does wonders for his stress. issues you do not choose may well be actual discarded so don't be shocked while he would not prefer to emotionally commit to you once you do not likely think of he's important to you. further, basically when you consider which you assert you do not "choose" him would not recommend you do not choose his money or are not going to be taking his money. "him" is non-compulsory. His earnings is important. you're a actual piece of paintings you already know that? you're able to desire to abort. you're able to desire to do it when you consider which you shouldn't be allowed to rigidity a guy to be a discern against his will. You need to be abandoned and depressing in case you do this. not even the government can rigidity a female to grow to be a mom so why do you think of it is your good to do it to a guy? Do the suited ingredient and abort. in case you do not then undertake the youngster out. something and you're basically being a C***. i will make a prediction although. you have the youngster and save it. Why? because of the fact it quite is a assured paycheck for two decades and you will save a guy on a string to play with and supply you your kicks. could desire to you ever mismanage the money or get lazy you may blame the father for not being around or making sufficient. You possibilities and blunders will by no skill come decrease back to hang-out you when you consider which you will continually have somebody in charge. stable success loser.
2016-10-14 21:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main reason he probably wants you to have an abortion is because he's worried he'll have to pay child support. If he is your ex, and you are not married, then it is up to you. It is your body. Do not harm an innocent baby due to his selfishness. If you don't want to have the responsibility of having a baby than let someone adopt it. There are many people looking for a baby that can't have one themselves. If he did the deed than he can step up and be responsible. He wasn't responsible enough to use a condom, if it is his child, then he needs to be a man about it now.
2006-12-13 10:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself do you really want this baby. are you keeping it just in hopes of getting him back? if you had the slightest incling of a yes in the back of your head, then chances are you are trying to trap him. a child is no way to gain a relationship. it will just hurt more in the long run when he comes to pick up the child you two had together with his new lover. You will never fully get over him because he will always be around. dont torment yourself.
However, if you are against abortion, and really feel that you can get over him and want the child for all the right reasons, then go for it girl. good luck
2006-12-13 10:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keyword here is EX, weather you abort or keep the aby chances are you are not getting back together so why do you care what he thinks?
If you want the baby keep it, in the moron laws eyes the man has no say in what happens
2006-12-13 10:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pro choice but I don't think you should ever let anyone presure you into having an abortion. It is your life and if he can't accept that then tell him to screw off because your love for your child is so much stronger that the love you can ever have for a man.
2006-12-13 10:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by shexshedsxtears 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If anything, having a kid will make your ex definitely stay away. Having a kid makes a bad mariage worse, btw. But, it's your decision, don't just decide to have it because you think it'll make your ex suddenly come running to you because you had his baby. Chances are slim. Have it because YOU want it, and make sure he pays child support! Just don't have it because you think it'll make him 'come to his senses'. Plus, WHY is he your ex now? Did that happen because you got pregnant? Or did you try to get pregnant because thing weren't going good?
2006-12-13 10:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you think is best. I personally don't believe in abortion. If you really don't think you can handle the baby their are several couples out there that want to adopt. Me being one of them. I would love to hear what you think. Contact me if need be.
2006-12-13 10:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by LeAnn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you love more? Your baby or your Ex? He is an EX for a reason. Do NOT kill your baby to make someone else happy. You will regret it for the rest of your life. One of my cousins had one 20 years ago and to this day she regrets it and wonders what her child would be like today.
2006-12-13 10:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋