2006-12-13 09:47:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
No to both.
I've been married 15 years, and all that time I've worked outside the home full-time, and my wife has take care of the home, finances, and kids.
Both are "jobs," no question -- mine just earns money, hers saves us money :)
But it's a choice that every couple has to make, and there's no right answer for everybody. We have always thought the benefits of having a mom at home full-time for the kids was worth any income loss from her not working...and fortunately I kept moving up in jobs and pay so it wasn't an issue. But for others, they might need that 2nd income to make it. Whatever's best for each couple :)
2006-12-13 09:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
The cost of living is only too high if a woman expects a higher standard of living than can be maintained by only one parent working. A family can do well on a single source of income if the man has a decent job and the woman is willing to do without many of the non-essentials that far too many have come to expect in life. History shows that families do fine without jacuzzi's in every bathroom and a summer-house in the mountain, folks. I have spoken with many men on the issue and have come to the conclusion that many men would be happy living in a cave, more or less...so it's fairly safe to say that women are driving the whole dual-income requirement in families, for the most part.
What Happy Bullet says is true about two working to maintain the same standard from years ago...but it can still be done if one is willing to lower their standard of living a bit. It's the woman who'll fight against this idea the most in this country.
2006-12-14 01:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by fishman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes and Yes.
You see men don't like women that work because they are manly AND don't like homemakers because they are leeches.
If incomes could comfortably support a household like the way things were before feminism, men wouldn't have a problem with homemaker wives because the whole system would support it.
Now that is not the case. Incomes have barely risen in 20 - 30 years while the cost of living has.
If this doesn't mean feminism has lost all credibility I don't know what would.
2006-12-13 14:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Happy Bullet 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been a homemaker for all 25 years of my marriage. However,the first 4 years I worked full-time outside the home and supported my husband while he got a PhD. Then he worked full-time while I stayed home with our Twins. I have a serious chronic illness and this allowed me the freedom to do breathing treatments and health care through out the day. The twins are now in college and great kids. My husband always believed my job was harder and never wanted to stay home! Raising kids and taking care of the home, laundry, meals, errands etc. is a very hard job. I did not want anyone else to raise my kids or teach them morality. I do not regret it and I feel my degree in Home Ec. came in very handy! You must realize each situation is different.
So No and NO!
2006-12-13 10:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by shepherd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a married couple wants to have a lot of nice things they should both work unless the man makes a lot of money. Most men don't make a lot of money so the woman has to work. It's better to have both people work. If someone suddenly loses their job there is still some income coming in.
2006-12-13 09:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Gemini Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can only speak for my family and my husband and i both have to work full time jobs and it still takes everything we make to pay our bills and we have nothing special no new cars no new house no credit cards we dont even have cable and if it were not for the fact my daughter uses the computer to go to school we wouldnt have the net so yea the cost of living is way to high for me to stay at home and as for it being unfair to the man i dont understand what you mean by that
2006-12-13 09:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by momoftwobestkids 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not, but you are steady focusing on the man, when there are plenty of men who are opting to be stay at home fathers and not work these days. Then those who are just sorry and want someone to take care of them.
But if you know how to budget, you can make it on a Mickie D's paycheck.
2006-12-13 09:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello again Morgan.
I figure this is in response to one of the answers posted in your other question.
Just so you know, the only way to get a definitive answer to this question is to sit down and look at the price of living and the income of the spouse.
We could all spout rhetoric and philosophy, but what it really comes down to is this woman crunching numbers.
I hope this helps
2006-12-13 10:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by KJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you still able to live in some comfort? Is he complaining? If not, then for you it is not. I think it is wonderful if the man is willing and able to support a wife, being a wife and mother is a full time job in itself, you could be asking him if that is fair....
2006-12-13 09:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cost of what kind of living?
2006-12-13 09:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋