my ex hates me?

Question

i have been divorced from my ex for 13 years and he still hates me. he left me for my best friend and i don't hate either one. why do you think he has these feelings

Answer 1

My guess is that everytime he looks at you, or remembers you........he is faced with his own short comings. Also, I'd venture to say he's unhappy in his life. Hate isn't something happy people tend to hang onto.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

He has not dealt with all the issues which led him to cheat on you. He must still blame you for the divorce because he cannot accept the blame himself.

My ex is like this, too. He cheated on me with the wife of a friend. He hates me after 10 years. I don't know why and don't care why. The only thing I know is that he still blames me. I didn't cheat and I tried counseling. He just chose to leave me for someone else. Until he accepts the blame he will be eaten away with the hatred. It makes no difference to me since I have move well beyond those feelings.

Answer 4

first off, you need to realize what the reason why you guys have divorced. maybe your ex just wants to avoid you, so that you guys do not have any other issues if you guys were to communicate. it HAS been thirteen years after all. it should not matter anymore. a divorce unties the knot between people and those people should move on. it doesnt matter if he hates you or if you feel as if he hates you because it should not be one of your worries.. trust me.. it`s a waste of time.

Answer 5

There is nothing that you can do. Nobody likes to see their ex with someone new and happy. The thing is that if they run across each other and exchange words they will probably end up fighting. Believe me I have gone through this a few times.

Answer 6

After 13 years, doll, why do you even care? Over is OVER no matter what....if he has moved on, then you should be doing the same thing and not worry about what he thinks of you. You are your own person in your own right and I believe that there are people in your life more worthy of your time of thought!

Answer 7

Honey theres a fine line between love and hate. The only reason why I think he would hate you is because he still loves you too. Yes it is possible to love and hate the same person at the same time.

Answer 8

he holds u responsible for the divorce that got him where he is today. he fails to see his own choices got him there. maybe he is just putting on for the benefit of the new wife, so the new wife won't see how he really feels. think he regrets what he did, but won't take responsibility for it. think every time he looks at u, it is a reminder of his own sins, his own choices, and maybe his life did not turn out as he thought they would.

Answer 9

I'll tell you a saying that I heard, "It isn't your problem or business what others think or feel about you as everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and feelings". I always keep this in mind and it makes me feel better even though people not liking me hurts my feelings, but oh well.

Answer 10

well maybe he made a bad discusion, as in leaving you for your best friend, thats his loss, dont worry why he hates you. You should careless. you should find someone else. If i was you i wouldnt even be talking to neither of them since they both done this to you... Move on.