I recently broke up with my long-term partner (it was my decision and it had been coming for a while). He has since gone back to his ex-girlfriend before me within a matter of weeks. I don't want him back but am very angry that he did this. Why would he do this? Also, he doesn't know that I know, so do u think I should tell him? He wants to stay friends, and I would have liked to, as he is like my bestfriend, but this makes it a bit weird...
2006-12-13 09:35:10 · 17 answers · asked by Danru 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
in my opinion he probably did it to make himself feel wanted again after you ended the relationship, its as simple as that, some people would rather be with anyone than be on their own, it must be a real pain in the **** to know hes done this even if you ended the relationship but let him get on with it and dont show him your bothered :) chin up, it'll be for the best, enjoy christmas and flirt with a few fellas
2006-12-13 09:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by Airyfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine is in the same positin as you it seems!
She had been with her boyfriend for 11 years, since she was 15yrs old-they split up and her heartbroken, devastated ex boyfriend was back in a relationship with an ex-girlfriend from high school, after about a month the girls pregnant with whats apparently his baby, even though her husband she had split with to rekindle the flame with her ex, was still staying in the house! Mmmm...seems a bit dodgy to me-typical rebound only my friends ex has fallen on his butt cos theres no way out for him!
Tell him you know and put across that friends shouldnt have secrets like that...good luck!
2006-12-13 17:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by splight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He went back because he is lonely. You had the advantage of knowing the relationship was coming to an end, he didn't. He did what most humans do in times of crisis - fall into the arms of someone who loves us.
Let him be for a while. He'll recover from the hurt and lonliness before he would succesfully be able to be genuine friends again with you without emotions in the way. Take a step back and wait.
2006-12-13 17:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you broke up with him that ment relationship-wise.Somthimes our feelings about a person we had a relationship with gets in the way of being friends,It's best to cut all ties with him..There is no such thing as having a true friendship becasue somewhere during that frindship sombody is going to say the wrong thing and then the anger and hurt also the pain will start over again.Don't go back as friends "EVER"there is no such thing..
2006-12-13 17:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all u broke up with him, so what he does in his life now is not your concern, even if u don't agree with it. Some people go back to their x's because it's a comfort zone, they get to escape their pain quickly, and they don't have to face the uncertainty and fear of being alone. As far as being friends this rarely works once u have been in a relationship. I would just move on and let him live his life and allow yourself to move on to new experiences without worrying about what he is up to.
2006-12-14 09:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do mention it to him do it casually in a friendly way, not like the jealous ex. I'm sure in some wierd way your feeling are hurt, because usually when people say it is over with an ex you believe them. Really, it is not your business who he dates, so outside of just mentioning it you are better of letting it go.
2006-12-13 17:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by a h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell you dumped him and he has moved on.... He moved back in with the EX.... Probably did it since she was willing to take him back.....
When he asks to stay friends I would say it is a bit too weird to have a friendship now.....
2006-12-13 17:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by JohnS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if it makes it a bit weird tyell him about it. He might understand, and he might not makeit so weird. And if you dont like him anymore i say you need to walk away. Expecilly if he is with his ex right in front of you. I personally dont know, but i do know that you should believe that if it makes you feel weird, and you dont like him anymore then you need to walk away. GL!
2006-12-13 17:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All tho you were the one that finished it. He may have felt that it was going no where, but you beet him to it. He must of still felt something for his ex to have gone back to her. So maybe you two weren't meant to be any way. What does it matter to you who he date's you didn't want him, that's why you finished it. Right ??????
2006-12-13 17:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by beverley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, if you don't want him back and it was your decision to end things then what difference does it make to you? I don;t think you should tell him you know either because it's really none of your business.
2006-12-13 17:47:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋