business associates and other people we all know? The affair ended, no contact between them for months, but she was very pissed off and thought he was "the one".
2006-12-13 09:27:35 · 20 answers · asked by Indievoter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let her blab- she's only making an idiot of herself. Who is crazy enough to want to flaunt the news that they were involved in an affair. especially to flaunt the fact they were involved with someone they knew was married? That only makes her look desperate and insecure. Be strong, have grace when dealing with anyone that is a common acquaintance by showing pity towards her (because she is pitiful) and not rage, and remember that you and your husband have worked things out, and that he chose you, not her. Most "other women" who have knowledge that the man is married justify the affair by saying he is "the one" because they can't live with the guilt and embarrassment of being involved with a married man if he wasn't. She's trying to make him look bad because she's angry, but remember that is impossible because he did the right thing and stayed with you, so she's the only one that looks bad.
2006-12-13 10:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have decided to stay married. More importantly he has decided to stay married to you and quit seeing the mistress. Usually when a man is having an affair the wife is the last to know. These people probably knew it was going on long before the ex-mistress started spouting off her mouth.
Be the bigger person; ignore her and hold your head high. You did nothing wrong.
2006-12-13 17:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy Old Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your husband feel about it? I am just wondering. You are a better woman than I am. Some people are able to forgive. I think since you have you need to do some thinking because you are now in a position to be making some demands. I would remove myself, family, and husband from the situation i.e. town, work. Why would you want to make your life miserable because of some loose lipped whore that can't admit that all she is, is a mistress. All she was to him was a piece of a$$. I know that it wouldn't be fair to ask to to change town, homes, or jobs because of her....but sometimes you just need to have a little piece of mind and you need to get out of that negative environment.
2006-12-13 17:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by LaReyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have say that letting her run her mouth will do More damage to her than anyone else involved. Rumors and gossip hurt but there is no really way to make someone stop, that is up to them. Most people will see her as a jaded ex and ignore her for the most part. If someone asks say that it is a personal matter and you would rather not talk about it. The other option would be to try to talk to her and if that didn't work the last would be for you to kick her butt but there is no guarantee that she wont press charges against you so make sure that you have witnesses around to verify your story.
2006-12-13 17:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by foxs4x4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I hope you made your cheating husband pay for what he did. She's probably feeling hurt and used. He cheated on you with her. He probably told her that he was going to leave you and be with her or something. I would be pissed about her blabbing, but you also have to consider the reasons why she is doing it.
2006-12-13 17:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is part of the deal you accept when you decided to stay with him. The fact the his adulterous ways could come to light and embarrass the hell out you and him. Its always a tough choice to stay and this is one of the reasons why. That lady was banking on the fact that once you found out you would leave and she will probably cause problems in your marriage for sometime. Telling any and everyone she can about her romps with your husband and any personal secrets he may have shared. Her way of getting back at him for not choosing her, and for getting back you for not leaving him.
2006-12-13 17:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone tells you that she said something to them about it, simply reply, "Shows how much class she has...blabbing about a failed affair with a married man." Then change the subject.
2006-12-13 17:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting this get to you this is what she wants she couldn't get your man so now she is going to try to get your mind. And who really care what she says about anything she can't get a man that doesn't already have a woman and she then has to go around making herself will you know what I want to say!! Don't waste your time on her you have much more you could do with your time like take this time to make him feel bad!
2006-12-13 17:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all husband and mistress-ex or not-do not belong in the same sentence!! It should be ex husband and *** kicked mistress!!!! Lose the zero!!!!
2006-12-13 17:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by dodlydink 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To shut her UP i would simply say well it is obvious the better woman won. He has told me all about you and to be honest you were never a threat more of an amusing toy for your husband.
2006-12-13 17:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by Cff 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋