Me and my best friend...I find it hard to talk to her about what I think and feel because everytime I try to she always interupts me and even when i'm upset and she knows it she'll tottelly change the subject on me and forget about me completly. I sat her down and talked about this with her but then she's always like I'M NOT PERFECT. But today, during T.A.L.K.(Long story, suppose to help people get out of clicks and open up to people more I guess you can say)
and during OPEN MIC people were coming up there crying and telling stories if they wanted to. Of coarse I didn't but instead I cried...a lot. and my best friend was near me...like a few inches away and this girl that was sitting next to me actually asked me "Are you ok?" and my own best friend didn't say anything.I asked her about it and she's like "Oh well...that councelor person that I hate was near there." And that's all she said(she hates him because she just doesn't trust him. That's all) (Continued)
2006-12-13 09:25:08 · 7 answers · asked by DreamfullAngel 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
and then when I started to explain "I was going to cry even more infront of..." and she just interupted me and went on her own buisness about her locker. and completly forgot about me. (done)
Me and her have been friends for like 5years and I usto be able to tell her everything and she'll listen and I listened to her problems too. But over the past 3years it's been sort of like this but last year and this year I have been noticing it's getting the best of me more and more.
2006-12-13 09:25:59 · update #1
And the answer is: she's not your best friend. She's self-centered, making excuses for her behavior and can't even acknowledge or accept that she has hurt your feelings by not being more attentive to your feelings and the first thing you need to learn about people is you can't change them. This one is going to bail on you some day when it suits her selfish fancy and leave you hurt and without a best friend. If you want the kind of acknowledgement and support you're talking about, find another best friend.
2006-12-13 09:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Venice Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her about it and first explain that she shouldn't interupt and then tell her exactly how you are feeling. IF she is still treating you like this, don't just say I'm not your friend anymore. I mean that's abit harsh. But I think you should try and step back for a bit and talk to new people and just not talk to her about personal stuff, I know it'll be hard but you just have to try ok? Hope all goes well.
2006-12-14 16:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call this person your best friend? She would be more of an associate in my life.
A best friend is supposed to support you and care for you on a level that very few people will reach in your life...even family...because you hand-picked this person to be in your life. They are supposed to respect you and never judge you but do have the right to let you know when they fill you are messing up and praise you when you doing well. But never ignore, or interrupt or not understand. It is not about being selfish or controlling but about loving you as you love her. You should be able to go to her with anything never in fear that it will come back to haunt you down the line. Even in times of a fallout "faithful are the wounds of a friend" because they are not trying to hurt you but they have your best interests at heart even when your mind is cloudy.
Are you sure you have that in her? Maybe you need to rethink that.
2006-12-13 18:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a "best friend" like that. We're not best friends anymore but she always would want to talk about herself and her problems but when I would want to talk about something that was really upsetting me which I rarely did she would zone out and completely not listen. She sounds really selfish and self absorbed. Just know that she will never be a true support for you. If you enjoy hanging out with her just hang out with her in a more superficial kind of way. Don't expect to have hearts to hearts with her or for her to help you out with your problems. Just have her as a superficial hang out buddy and then have other friends that you know you can go to for the emotional stuff.
2006-12-13 17:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by babeejazzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What i would do is get a new friend and i'm sure your gonna forget about it.You can try to being friends with that one girl that asked if you were okay. Other option would be to write a letter to your friend. I have done it because i have felt ignored too.
2006-12-13 17:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by ~Juicy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a friend. I know how you feel because I have been there. I am not friends with my friend anymore and I am partly glad. If your friend is going to treat you this way and talking does not do anything, end it. She is bringing you down and you do not need that. She obviously does not care that you hurt, that she is hurting you. You do not need someone who will bring you down. You need someone who you can trust in confidence and who cares about you.
2006-12-13 17:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lauryn B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She either has too much on her mind like her own feelings, she's been raised to believe that sympathy is weakness, or she's not really your friend. You decide.
2006-12-13 17:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋