Arranged marriages are a norm in most of the Indian families where parents choose suitable partners for their children.
Women get the bad end of the deal coz not only dont they not know anything about the guy they marry, they have to give dowry, they are the ones who are expected to change, adjust, compromise, sacrifice according to their husband's desires.
So, girls, if u had the choice and ur parents would allow, would u choose arranged marriage or would u prefer to choose a person urself who is compatible and who u love, respect for an equal partnership of life?
2006-12-13 09:24:13 · 4 answers · asked by arwa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have witnessed many unhappy women in their 'good' marriages........The wives seem to have lost their identity, their passion.........they just exsist obeying every desire of their husband...........they do not love their husbands nor are they compatible but she gives up being herself to make the marriage work, she endures all kind of abuse and disrespect..........coz in the society, it would be said, '' this is how things are meant to be and that it is her duty/moral responsibility towards the marriage.''
2006-12-13 20:43:45 · update #1
im not indian but i am arab and that happens alot in my culture.I would want a love marriage over arranged any day.
2006-12-13 10:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by aliyah 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Granted, I'm not an Indian girl, but I have to respond to this:
Marriage shouldn't have to be a business matter, but a choice for two people who are in love and want to be together. Arranged marriages in this day and age are only a recipe for disaster.
2006-12-13 09:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by expatriate59 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Only a girl can write this :Women get a bad end...................... desires"
To tell you the truth I got engaged and it was arranged. She did told me afterwards that when all this was going on she did not wanted to and she felt that she was too young (19 not 13 before you say anything, and she is studying and she is going to finish the studies before you go on that sacrifice hoopla thing again). and as she did not knew me she did felt uneasy. and after around six months she was glad that we got engaged as we are compatible and we are in love and respect each other and have an equal partnership of life.
Sometimes Parents know best and God helps a lot too.
About your comments on women, we hear lot of women problems in society because they speak out, Men goes through a lot more than most women, its just that we dont advertise much.
Its my engagement anniversary coming up, could you suggest a gift or what i should do?
2006-12-13 15:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Firstly, I am not a girl. Still wud like to answer this.
Arranged marriages have their own charm.
Marriages in India are not just two people being one. It is in fact two families becoming one.
Arranged marriages are still a huge success in India reason being... First two families match frequencies and then the bride and groom. Hence less chances of troubles.
2006-12-13 10:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋